Choose Love

“Find someone who isn’t afraid to admit that they miss you. Someone who knows that you’re not perfect, but treats you as if you are. Someone whose biggest fear is losing you. One who gives their heart completely. Someone who says I love you and means it. Last but not the least, find someone who wouldn’t mind waking up with you each morning, seeing your wrinkles and your gray hair but still falls in love with you all over again.” Unknown 

 

Today my nephew I once knew as Alexito got married in San Salvador. It must have been such an amazing moment for my sister Liz and brother-in-law Eric to witness their first son getting married. Lucky for Alex and his beautiful bride Gaby, that both sets of parents are still together and were present to enjoy the moment. They are a great example to their children. They kept their promise and that is something to celebrate in this day and age. Good for them! I love weddings. I love attending their ceremonies. There is such an amazing surreal feeling when two people promise each other endless love.

 

I can only picture in my head their eyes sparkling, so happy and in love. It’s clear how they only see the good in each other. How great it would be if couples could find a way to always remember how in love they were with one another on their wedding day and then hold on to those feelings for each other all the years of their marriage. Wouldn’t it be amazing to be able to somehow bottle that feeling and keep it sacred so it never gets lost?

 

Bianca wrote a cute song "Feel the love again" about how in marriage everyone starts out so happy and in love with that twinkle in their eye. Then as time goes on he forgets to put the cap on the toothpaste and it gets all over the bathroom mirror which annoys her. Couples start to see all the negative in each other instead of seeing only the positive the way they did when they first fell in love and decided to get married. Without even realizing it, they can let the love they once had for each other get taken for granted and start to disappear. That is what happens to so many of us. She also wrote a song entitled "promise" eluding to the fact that when you marry, you make a promise that should never be broken. 

 

I believe that in those two songs is the secret of what makes a good marriage. In one it tells you to see the best in the other person and to not be critical because that is how it all starts and on the other, it tells you of that promise you make when you get married to be there for the other person and to not ever break your promise or temple covenants as Latter-day Saints who marry for time and eternity.

I remember a time when my marriage was dying how I would display our one and only wedding photo for Brad to see because I wanted so bad to go back in time and  freeze that moment when we only saw the good in each other. Those wedding pictures, which incidentally, we only had a few thanks to an uncle who supposedly was going to be our photographer but never developed a single photo. This was of course back in those days when if you were out of film, you were out of luck, and he had no film in his camera. We didn’t have good photos to say the least except for one. 

Those memories are the perfect reminders of the love that was once there. In my home today, I have an enormous painting of our hands opening the temple door, this is a reminder of that special day for us. People comment on the beautiful picture adorning our living room wall. I suppose that is why so many of my friends filled their walls with photos of their wedding day. People want to always look back at those pictures and remember that special day when they had the ability to only see the good in each other. 

 

Today take the time to look at the photos from your own wedding (if you are married). Notice the twinkle in your eyes and the smiles you gave each other. Then go hug your sweetheart and focus on only seeing the good and like Bianca's song would you please fall in love all over again?  We all can do that if we choose! 

 

Con amor,

Vero