Thursday, September 10, 2020

Oh, the places you'll go!

Thoughts on 174 days of quarantine.

 

I was talking to my mom today on this very subject when an article by a woman by the name of Jacqueline Wales came to mind that I want to share. She wrote an article about Dr. Seuss book Oh, the Places you’ll Go! 

 

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You`re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who`ll decide where to go…“ 

 

She writes the following: 

 

You have brains in your head.Stepping out of our own way is the biggest challenge for most people. We over think, or under think, and many times the thinking is completely skewed in the wrong direction. Using our brains is what changing our thinking is all about. Move from the negativity to the positive and learn how to embrace your fearless self, removing doubts and anxieties that are currently stopping you from being your best self now.

 

 Feet in your shoes.How many of us are standing in our own shoes? It took me years to realize that I was walking in someone else’s. It was a proud day when I could say they were mine. Don’t be walking someone else’s path, and don’t go trying to wear shoes that don’t fit you. Pinched feet are painful. Leave them at home.

 

Steer yourself in any direction you choose.Choosing a direction is the hardest part. What do you really want for yourself? Where do you really want to go. Once you decide on that, then take every possible action to get yourself where you want to go. 

 

You’re on your own. That much is clear. We are totally responsible for EVERYTHING that happens in our life, whether wittingly or unwittingly, we have made a choice or a decision that brought us into the circumstance or event in our life. Being responsible for each and every aspect of your life means you’re on your own, but you are not alone. Everyone is right there beside you . 

 

You know what you know.It’s all inside of you. The questions and the answers. Trust yourself more. Fear is essentially our lack of trust that we have all the answers, that we can control our life. We are stronger than we think, and we KNOW a lot. Trust you more often. 

 

You are the one who’ll decide where to go. It’s your life. Learn how to embrace it, and allow it to unfold the way you want it to be. Be Fearless: See Where It Gets You! You will be surprised at what you find.” 

 

What a great article! I think we sometimes fall into the trap of thinking we are a victim of circumstance in life when we certainly control the way we approach them, handle them, react to them, and think about them. 

 

Con amor,

Vero

Wednesday, September 9, 2020

Insights From a Prophet's Life

Thoughts on 173 days of quarantine.

I loved listening to the book "Insights" by Sheri Dew. Here is a news piece about the book of the life of President Nelson who incidentally is turning 96 today 

Each prophet’s mortal schooling is singular, writes Sheri Dew in the preface of “Insights from a Prophet’s Life” — a new book on the life and personal experiences of President Russell M. Nelson.

“In studying a prophet’s life, we see how the Lord molds, prepares, and tutors a man so that at the appointed hour, he is able, worthy, and ready to be His mouthpiece and to lead His people,” said Dew, executive vice-president and chief content officer of Deseret Management Corporation.

“Like those who have preceded him, President Russell M. Nelson is no ordinary man. His professional accomplishments as one of the earliest pioneers of open-heart surgery are well documented. His contributions to the Church as a General Authority and General Officer now span four decades. His personal attributes are exemplary. He is exceptional in so many ways.

“And yet he, like King Benjamin and every other prophet who has ever lived, has felt pain, made mistakes, fallen short at times, and been called upon to do things that at the time looked impossible. These experiences have led to one of President Nelson’s favorite phrases — that the Lord uses the unlikely to accomplish the impossible, and he has often used himself as a perfect example of that truth.”

This week the Church News shares brief excerpts from “Insights.”

The one thing he did late was get baptized

Russell Nelson was a standout in anything he touched, and he seems to have done almost everything early. He graduated from high school early, went to the university early, graduated from medical school early, and so on. The one thing he did late was get baptized.

He was sixteen years old and a senior in high school when he was baptized and confirmed a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and received the gift of the Holy Ghost. Curiously, though, throughout his growing-up years, Russell had continued to attend church — usually alone. His closest friends were not in his ward, he wasn’t wowed by the lessons, and he thought the music conductor was intimidating. “He had a baton,” Russell remembered, “and he loved to shake it at my nose and at the other boys as well. ‘Master, the Tempest Is Raging’ was a favorite, and he was quite energetic with that baton of his during that song.”

"I knew the gospel was for real."

Something inside, however, kept him going. At the time of his baptism, Sterling W. Sill, who would later serve as a General Authority, was his bishop, and Bishop Sill took a special interest in the teenaged Russell. “By that point, I had a testimony. I knew the gospel was for real,” Russell said.

It would be decades before his parents would become active in the Church. “As I matured and began to understand the magnificence of Heavenly Father’s plan, I often said to myself, ‘I don’t want one more Christmas present! I just want to be sealed to my parents’” (Nelson, “Revelation”).

Lieutenant Nelson

As it turns out, at least some of what would later be depicted in the popular television sitcom M*A*S*H wasn’t all that far from the truth. Television doctors Hawkeye Pierce and B. J. Hunnicutt didn’t know one end of a rifle from the other, and neither did Dr. Nelson. On the flight from Tokyo to Taegu, Korea, a superior officer handed him a rifle and told him to carry it. When Lieutenant Nelson protested, saying he’d never used a rifle and had no idea how to fire one, he was instructed, “Carry it anyway.” One day, while he was walking through a Korean village, guerillas in surrounding hills started shooting at him. He couldn’t see where the shots were coming from, and he didn’t know how to use the gun anyway. “I sensed that my rifle was more of a hazard to me than a protection,” he said (Nelson, “From Heart to Heart,” p. 77).

His research team was charged with determining why soldiers died once they entered the military’s medical care system. …

Lieutenant Nelson also learned something else: that foxholes invite serious introspection. One evening the M.A.S.H. unit where he was working came under attack. He and Dr. Simeone shared a foxhole for most of the night. “Dr. Simeone, a devout Catholic, and I, a devout Latter-day Saint, prayed unitedly in our foxhole that our lives might be preserved,” he recalled. Lieutenant Nelson reflected later how much it meant to face life-threatening danger with a man of faith whose beliefs may have differed from his but who looked to the same Source for comfort and strength. Their combined faith was a boon to both that stressful night.

At another M.A.S.H., Russell met a young Latter-day Saint soldier who had been paralyzed by a gunshot wound. He wondered how to comfort the young man and ended up being the one comforted when the soldier said, “Don’t worry about me, Brother Nelson, for I know why I was sent to the earth — to gain experiences and work out my salvation. I can work out my salvation with my mind and not with my legs. I’ll be all right!” Russell recorded afterward that “the faith of that young man has motivated me ever since” (Nelson, “From Heart to Heart,” p. 79).

Dantzel's vision

It was early fall in 1957 when Dantzel woke Russell in the middle of the night to tell him about a vivid dream she’d just had. With some exuberance, she announced that she and Russell were going to have a baby boy. “During the night, I had a vision,” she said. “It was more than just a dream. I saw a baby boy. He had a round face and lots of hair and he looked just like you. I had a wonderful visit with him.”

Russell was interested, to say the least. Dantzel was pregnant with their sixth child, and after five daughters, the prospects of having a son were exciting. They adored their daughters — Marsha, Wendy, Gloria, Brenda, and Sylvia — but also loved the idea of having a son. When Emily, their sixth daughter, was born shortly thereafter, they both wondered about Dantzel’s nighttime experience but were quickly smitten with their newest baby girl.

Sixteen months later, they had another child — a girl, Laurie. And then three years later, another girl, Rosalie. And then three and a half years after that, another girl, Marjorie. Following Dantzel’s first vision of the chubby-faced, dark-haired little boy, the Nelsons made four more trips to the hospital to deliver babies and returned home each time with a precious bundle wrapped in pink.

Curiously, throughout this entire expanse of time — the better part of a decade — Dantzel’s nighttime experiences with the boy continued. “I saw him again,” she would tell Russell in the morning. “He’s such a sweet and a special young boy.”

They now had a large family by anyone’s standards — nine daughters — and Dantzel’s age had become an issue. With each successive pregnancy, she had found it increasingly difficult to both carry and deliver their babies. Stopping was not an option, though. Her experiences with the little boy were so vivid that she felt certain their family was not yet complete.

So, despite the fact that she would be forty-six when she delivered this baby, she became pregnant a tenth time. It had been more than five years since she had delivered Marjorie, their youngest daughter.

While in Sun Valley, Idaho, speaking at a meeting of the Idaho Heart Association, Russell awoke in the middle of the night with the clear impression that this time Dantzel was carrying the son she had been seeing for years. And he also had the impression that the little boy’s name should be Russell Marion Nelson Jr. With each previous pregnancy, Russell and Dantzel had selected both a girl’s and a boy’s name, but they’d always shied away from labeling a son as “Junior.” This time, however, it felt different.

When Dantzel went into labor, pitocin was given to strengthen her contractions. But then her blood pressure soared. Russell was at her side and became increasingly nervous as her labor did not progress. When her blood pressure hit 220/120, he insisted that her obstetrician take the baby by cesarean section. On March 21, 1972, Dantzel delivered a beautiful, twelve-pound, twenty-three-inch bundle of joy — a dark-haired, chubby-faced baby boy!

As Dantzel awakened from the anesthesia and Russell handed her bundled son to her, she exclaimed, “He’s the one! He’s the one I’ve seen and known for all these years.” Finally the Nelsons had a son, and, as Russell would quip later, “Our home was like a girls’ dormitory until our one and only son came along. Poor boy! He didn’t know who his real mother was for his first couple of years” (Nelson, “Faith and Families”).

Called as an apostle

On January 11, 1984, a year to the day after the passing of Elder (LeGrand) Richards, Elder Mark E. Petersen of the Twelve passed away. Now there were two vacancies in the Twelve, and, if anything, the situation was more critical. President Kimball’s health had deteriorated even further, and his mind was less dependable. To make matters worse, those privy to the situation knew President Kimball was in no condition to receive the revelation to extend such calls.

One of those persons was Dr. Nelson. The week before the April 1984 general conference, Russell’s surgical nurse, Jan Curtis, mentioned how excited she was for the upcoming conference because two new Apostles would be called. Russell tried to gently tell her that it wasn’t going to happen. “I was his doctor, and I knew it wasn’t feasible, that President Kimball was not well or coherent enough to do it. I explained to her that calling an Apostle is the prerogative of the President of the Church and that President Kimball was simply in no condition to do that.”


For months, President Gordon B. Hinckley, the only healthy member of the First Presidency at the time (President Marion G. Romney’s health had also deteriorated), had left standing instructions with President Kimball’s caregivers that if his mind ever cleared, they were to call him immediately, regardless of the hour. Month after month passed with no call. From time to time, President Hinckley looked in on President Kimball, but an opportunity to discuss such a spiritually sensitive topic as calls to the Twelve never presented itself.

Then, at about 2:30 a.m. on the Wednesday morning prior to the April 1984 general conference, the phone rang at President Hinckley’s home. President Kimball was alert and would like to talk to him. President Hinckley rushed downtown to President Kimball’s suite in the Hotel Utah, where the issue of vacancies in the Twelve was raised. President Kimball said simply, “Call Nelson and Oaks to the Quorum of the Twelve, in that order.”

Two days later, on Friday morning, President Hinckley summoned Dr. Nelson from the regional representatives’ seminar in process. He asked Russell just one question: “Is your life in order?”

When he responded that it was, President Hinckley replied, “Good, because tomorrow we’re presenting your name to be sustained as one of the Twelve Apostles” (Dew, “Go Forward with Faith,” p. 402). With that, President Hinckley embraced the stunned Russell M. Nelson, and both men wept. “You have permission to go home and tell your wife,” President Hinckley said.

‘I have the best job in the world'

From day one, the new First Presidency found themselves in sync and working together hand in glove. President Nelson’s background in medicine, science, and research, combined with President Oaks’s legal background and President Eyring’s training as a professor of business at both Harvard and Stanford — not to mention the more than ninety combined years the three had served in the Quorum of the Twelve or First Presidency — made for rich, informed, enlightening discussions and deliberations.

President Nelson found their diversity of experience supportive and sustaining. “I’ve been asked if I have experienced the loneliness of leadership since becoming President of the Church. No, I haven’t,” he said. “I have not felt lonely at all. I have great counselors, and when we pray about something and are unified, we move forward. I literally have not felt the loneliness of leadership.” …

See videos of President Nelson's ministry here.

“I have the best job in the world,” President Nelson said, pushing aside the suggestion that he carries heavy burdens. “I get to approve temples and make other determinations that will bless people’s lives and move the work forward. And I have the privilege of feeling the love that the Lord has for His children — for all of His children. Could there be anything better than that?”

Something never been seen before

The campus of Church headquarters spans several blocks in downtown Salt Lake City that include Temple Square, the Conference Center, and the Church History Library as well as the block containing the Joseph Smith Memorial Building, the Lion House, the Church Office Building, the Relief Society Building, and the Church Administration Building. These blocks are connected by an intricate series of underground tunnels that make it possible for Church leaders to move easily between buildings without respect for weather or crowds.


The distance underground from the Church Administration Building to the Salt Lake Temple isn’t far — perhaps a few hundred yards. But for men in their eighties and nineties who at times deal with the physical limitations induced by age, the distance is farther than some have felt able to walk. Golf carts have been the answer, with a line of them available to whisk the Brethren over to the temple each Thursday morning for the weekly meeting of the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve, and then waiting to bring them back at the conclusion of the meeting followed by their lunch together. A team from Church Security always handles the transportation.

The second week President Nelson presided over the meeting of the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve in the temple, the security officers waiting with a line of carts afterward saw something they had never seen before. President Nelson emerged from the temple walking with both of his counselors, and every member of the Twelve walking behind them — fifteen prophets, seers, and revelators walking back from the temple to the Church Administration Building. “For the first time in anyone’s memory,” said Alan Parker, an officer with Church Security, “the carts came back empty.” If the Church’s ninety-three-year-old President could walk, everyone could walk.

"Insights" should be on the top ten books to read. 

Con amor,

Vero

Tuesday, September 8, 2020

When adoption is the only option

Thoughts on 172 days of quarantine.

 

My daughter and son- in -law are again going through all the hoops to adopt a baby girl who is due this month, something that just a couple of months ago was not on their radar. The go fund me is done in lieu of a baby shower. 

 

Here is their story,


 


"As many of you may know, Joseph and I had the amazing experience of adopting a baby boy last year in May of 2019. Bringing children to our family has been an adventure to say the least. For those that don’t know the story, we had a few false starts at the beginning with fertility treatments and some miscarriages, but then a friend offered to carry a baby for us, and miraculously she and I ended up pregnant with Joseph’s and my last two remaining embryos, and just like that, we ended up with biological sisters that are just 4 months apart. Ruby spent some time in the NICU because I delivered her unexpectedly at 30 weeks, so needless to say the expense of our journey toward parenthood has been significant (but totally worth it of course).


Then, a few years after Ruby and Norah were born, we were able to adopt a baby boy! Isaac has been such a joyful addition to our family. Ruby and Norah absolutely adore him. Since then, we have wondered if adoption would be in the cards for us again because it was such a beautiful experience. However, we knew that in order to adopt once more, we would first need some time to save up as adoption was...not inexpensive, let’s just say that.

Then, just a few weeks ago, we heard from Isaac’s birth mom and found out that she is pregnant with a baby girl! She explained to us that she was initially hoping to keep the baby, but due to some changes in her life, she was wanting to place this baby for adoption with our family because she felt it would be best for the baby. We were elated at the idea of adding to our sweet little family and didn’t want to pass up this opportunity, especially for both Isaac and this little baby girl who would be biological half siblings.


When Mandy asked us about doing a “go fund me” for the adoption processthat we are going through, Joseph and I both resisted the idea initially because asking for financial help is humbling to say the least, especially when this is our choice to adopt. However, after weighing our options, and then thinking of the beautiful gift it would be to have loved ones contribute and be involved in bringing this little babe to our family, we both felt that this could be a huge blessing to involve others in this process. We would like to actually write everyone’s name on a piece of fabric and make a quilt that she can have as a memory of just how loved and supported she is. 


I am moved to tears in writing this even now, and I feel so humbled and grateful to even have this opportunity at all. This little babe is due to be born on September 18th (most likely a little earlier than that, and yes that’s just two weeks away), so we are kind of in a rush to figure this all out. If you have the ability to contribute in any way, every dollar helps and is appreciated so very much. From the bottom of our hearts, thank you for your love and support. We know things are difficult for many at the moment, so if you aren’t able to donate, your prayers and positive thoughts are also very much appreciated and valued."


With love and gratitude,



Bianca and Joseph (Ruby, Norah and Isaac)"

Here is the breakdown of the adoption expenses:

Adoption Agency Fee from TX: $15,000
Birth Mother Fee: Around $8,000
Legal Fee: $3,500
Home Study: $2,500
Post placement reports: $1,800
Coordinating fee with agency: $300
Travel Expenses: TBD but would involve flights, hotel and rental car for the 2-3 weeks that we are in TX waiting for the paperwork to process
Total for adoption of baby sister: Around $31,000

 

Thank you in advance!

 

Con amor,

Vero

 

Monday, September 7, 2020

What sells a home

171 days of quarantine.

 

Some time ago, a friend sent me this email when we were selling our Mill circle home. Now Cristi is selling her home and might consider these tips.

 

 7 Helpful Tips on Selling Your Home
:

 

a. Pricing It Right

b. Light It Up


c. Conceal the Critters


d. Take the Home Out of Your House
.

e. The Kitchen Comes First


f. Always Be Ready To Show


g. The First Impression Is the Only Impression

 

2. know your contracts:

a. unrepresented buyer disclosures

b. Buyer broker agreement

c. For Sale by Owner agreement & Agency Disclosures

d. Real Estate Purchase Contract LBPD

e. Addendum to REPC

f. Lead base paint addendum disclosure

g. Transaction document Receipt. 

 

Here are our top 5 tips for getting the best price for your home:

 

1          Pricing it right
 Find out what your home is worth, then shave 10 percent off the price. You’ll be stampeded by buyers with multiple bids — even in the worst markets — and they’ll bid up the price over what it’s worth. It takes real courage and most sellers just don’t want to risk it, but it’s the single best strategy to sell a home in today’s market.

 

2          Light it up
 Maximize the light in your home. After location, good light is the one thing that every buyer says that they want in a home. Open up the drapes, clean the windows, change the lampshades, increase the wattage of your light bulbs and cut the bushes outside to let in sunshine. Do what you have to do to make your house bright and cheery – it will make it more sellable.

 

 

3          Conceal the critters
 You might think a cuddly dog would warm the hearts of potential buyers, but you’d be wrong. Not everybody is a dog or cat lover. Buyers don’t want to walk in your home and see a bowl full of dog food, smell the kitty litter box or have tufts of pet hair stuck to their clothes. It will give buyers the impression that your house is not clean. If you’re planning an open house, send the critters to a pet hotel for the day.

 

4          Take the home out of your house 
One of the most important things to do when selling your house is to de- personalize it. The more personal stuff in your house, the less potential buyers can imagine themselves living there. Get rid of a third of your stuff – put it in storage. This includes family photos, memorabilia collections and personal keepsakes. Consider hiring a home stager to maximize the full potential of your home. Staging simply means arranging your furniture to best showcase the floor plan and maximize the use of space.

 

5          The kitchen comes first
 You’re not actually selling your house, you’re selling your kitchen – that’s how important it is. The benefits of remodeling your kitchen are endless, and the best part of it is that you’ll probably get 85% of your money back. It may be a few thousand dollars to replace countertops where a buyer may knock $10,000 off the asking price if your kitchen looks dated. The fastest, most inexpensive kitchen updates include painting and new cabinet hardware. Use a neutral-color paint so you can present buyers with a blank canvas where they can start envisioning their own style. If you have a little money to spend, buy one fancy stainless steel appliance. Why one? Because when people see one high-end appliance they think all the rest are expensive too and it updates the kitchen.

 

6          Always be ready to show
Your house needs to be "show-ready" at all times – you never know when your buyer is going to walk through the door. You have to be available whenever they want to come see the place and it has to be in tip-top shape. Don’t leave dishes in the sink, keep the dishwasher cleaned out, the bathrooms sparkling and make sure there are no dust bunnies in the corners. It’s a little inconvenient, but it will get your house sold.

 

 

The first impression is the only impression
 No matter how good the interior of your home looks, buyers have already judged your home before they walk through the door. You never have a second chance to make a first impression. It’s important to make people feel warm, welcome and safe as they approach the house. Spruce up your home’s exterior with inexpensive shrubs and brightly colored flowers. You can typically get a 100-percent return on the money you put into your home’s curb appeal. Entryways are also important. You use it as a utility space for your coat and keys. But, when you’re selling, make it welcoming by putting in a small bench, a vase of fresh-cut flowers or even some cookies.

 

Contracts are very important and can be confusing. Many people enlist a real estate agent just for this aspect of a transaction. 

 

The very basics that you should know when selling your home on your own is to use the State approved forms where you reside. When doing this you take out any of the guesswork involved with contracts. State approved forms are made to be fair to both parties in a transaction. They have been reviewed by top lawyers and industry experts to make sure that key points are covered in writing to avoid any legal issues or harm to anyone involved in the transaction. Many home buying companies will use their own short form purchase contract. This should be a huge red flag. There is no reason that they shouldn’t use state approved forms. If they aren’t, it’s likely that the contract is either one sided (in their favor) or that they are leaving key components out of the contract which could leave you wide open for liability. 

 

Here is a list of the contracts, along with a brief description, that should be used when selling your home on your own.

The first thing you need to do in any real estate transaction is establish Agency (or lack of Agency). If the buyer of your home is buying personally (in their own personal name) they would need to use a form called:

 

1.    Unrepresented Buyer Disclosure– This document clarifies that they are representing themselves and protects you in stating that you are also not representing them in any way as well. This protects both people in the transaction. Additionally if the buyer is a real estate agent they need to disclose that on an addendum in the purchase contract. If the buyer is not buying the home personally, their representative needs to be a real estate agent so they must have a...

 

2. Buyer-Broker Agreement– This document clarifies that the person/company buying your home has a representative acting on their behalf (a real estate agent) and is looking out for their best interests, not yours. Be careful, if anyone is speaking with you and they are not personally buying your home then they are technically acting on the behalf of someone or something else and that requires a real estate license. If they don’t have a license they are operating their business in an illegal manner and should be reported to the proper authorities. The next thing needed would be to establish clarity on the Agency on your side of things. If you are selling your home on your own without an agent then you would want to have that in writing by using the… 

 

3. For Sale By Owner Agreement & Agency Disclosure -This document will clarify that you do not have an agent and you will represent your own interest in the transaction. It outlines that you will be paying a commission (if any) to anyone, so you can’t be held liable for it later if you didn’t agree to pay one. Next you want to put the sale in writing by using the state approved purchase contract, known as the...

 

 

4. Real Estate Purchase Contract (REPC) –This 6 page document covers all the key points in the transaction so that everything is clear and in writing. It covers the following (and more): Buyer(s), Seller(s), Earnest Money, Property, inclusions/exclusions, water service, price, settlement & closing, proration’s, special assessments, fees, closing, possession date, agency, title and insurance, sellers disclosures, purchase contingencies (due diligence, appraisal, financing), home warranty, final walk-through, mediation, default, attorneys fees (if any), notices, assignability, insurance, electronic copies of contract, acceptance and contract deadlines. That seems like a lot but the form is written in a way that you just fill in blanks and is actually pretty simple. Next would be any addenda that outlines changes to the purchase contract. Any changes need to be on...

 

5. Addendum To Real Estate Purchase Contract Form –This is a blank form but has pre-written items that can be populated into the form. Additionally you can write your own terms into the form.

 

6. Lead Based Paint Addendum/ Disclosure –This form is required by law to be used in any transaction that involves a property that was built before 1978. It discloses to all parties what facts are known about the property in regards to lead based paint. Additionally, it confirms the buyer received the proper documentation regarding the health risks associated with lead based paint...

 

7. Sellers Property Condition Disclosures (SPCD) –This is the last standardized form that should be used on every transaction. As with everything in life, especially real estate, you want to be honest in all your dealing. That means disclosing all facts and known history that you know about the house to the new potential buyer. It includes but is not limited to remodel work, leaks, core upgrades, insurance claims, length of ownership, use of property, roof, utilities, HVAC, appliances, fireplaces, interior/ exterior features, structural, boundaries/ easements/ surveys, electrical, mold, hazardous conditions, HOA and assessments. From there you want to make sure that you follow state law and get a...

 

8. Transaction Document Receipt –This document confirms that each party has received fully signed copies of all the documents in accordance with state law. That way all parties are in agreement about the terms of the deal and no one can claim they aren’t. By signing this you are confirming that you have in fact received all copies referenced in the document and that you signed them as well.

Now, that all may seem a bit overwhelming but it’s the proper way to do the transaction that follows all rules and regulations. 

 

Although it may seem like a lot of paperwork it actually only takes less than an hour to go through it all and get it signed by both parties. In the past eleven years, we have either bought or sold multiple properties but each time it has been a different experience because no two transactions are the same. I hope Cristi sells her home quick and for the asking price. 

 

Con amor,

Vero

 

 

 

Sunday, September 6, 2020

Sunday Sermon: Finding Faith in Christ

Thoughts on 170 days of quarantine. 

 

“Only Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and His Infinite Atonement can bring us peace, hope, and understanding. 

 

Believing in the Savior and His mission is so essential that it is the first principle of the gospel: “Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ.”1 What is faith? In his epistle to the Hebrews in the New Testament, the Apostle Paul taught that “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”2 And how do we gain faith? How do we gain evidence of our Savior, whom we have not seen? The scriptures teach us:

 

“To some it is given by the Holy Ghost to know that Jesus Christ is the Son of God, and that he was crucified for the sins of the world.

 

“To others it is given to believe on their words, that they also might have eternal life if they continue faithful.”3

 

From the beginning of time, prophets have known that Jesus Christ is the Son of God, of His mortal mission, and of His Atonement for all mankind. Sacred records give the prophecies of thousands of years, not only of the first coming of our Savior but also of the Second Coming—a glorious day that will most assuredly come.

 

If we had lived in the days of these prophets of old, would we have believed on their words? Would we have had faith in the coming of our Savior?

In ancient America, Samuel the Lamanite prophesied that on the night of the Savior’s birth “there [would] be great lights in heaven, … insomuch that it shall appear unto man as if it was day.”4

Many believed Samuel and went to find Nephi, confessed their sins, repented, and were baptized. “And angels did appear unto [them], and did declare unto them glad tidings of great joy.”5

 

But for the most part, the Nephites “harden[ed] their hearts”6and became blind to the “signs and wonders” of the times. These signs were given so “that [the people] might know that the Christ must shortly come.”7 But instead of heeding them, the Nephites “depend[ed] upon their own … wisdom, saying: Some things [the believers] may have guessed right, … [but] it is not reasonable that such a being as a Christ shall come.”8

 

In those days as in ours, some naysayers, called anti-Christs, convinced others that there was no need for a Savior and His Atonement. When Samuel’s prophecy was finally fulfilled and there was a “day and a night and a day, as if it were one day,”9what joy must have filled the hearts of those who had believed in the prophets! “It had come to pass, yea, all things, every whit, according to the words of the prophets. And it came to pass also that a new star did appear, according to the word.”10

 

Those who believed on the words of the prophets recognized the Savior throughout His life and ministry and were blessed to follow Him. But sometimes the faith of even the most devoted followers was tested. After the Crucifixion Thomas heard his brethren testify that the Savior had risen from the tomb. But instead of believing their words, Thomas declared, “Except I shall see …, I will not believe.”11 Later this beloved Apostle was given the opportunity to touch the prints of the nails in the Savior’s hands and confessed, “My Lord and my God.”12 The Savior then lovingly taught him as He has taught all of us what it means to have faith: “Because thou hast seen me, thou hast believed: blessed are they that have not seen, and yet have believed.”13

 

Believers on the American continent faced similar tests of faith. As Samuel had prophesied, there were great “thunderings and lightnings,”14 and darkness covered “the whole earth for the space of three days.”15 But those who had “received the prophets and stoned them not”16 did not fear or flee. They recognized this was “the sign [that] had been given concerning [the Savior’s] death”17 and gathered to the temple, marveling together. And there He appeared to them, saying:

 

“Behold, I am Jesus Christ, whom the prophets testified shall come into the world.

“… I have drunk out of that bitter cup which the Father hath given me, and have glorified the Father in taking upon me the sins of the world. …

“And it came to pass that when Jesus had spoken these words the whole multitude fell to the earth; for they remembered that it had been prophesied among them that Christ should show himself unto them after his ascension into heaven.”18

 

Brothers and sisters, the prophecies of Christ’s first coming were fulfilled, “every whit.” As a result, many throughout the world believe that the Savior did come and did live in the meridian of time. But there are still many prophecies yet to be fulfilled! In this and other conferences, we hear living prophets prophesy and testify of Christ’s Second Coming. They also witness of the signs and wonders all about us, telling us that Christ will surely come again. Are we choosing to believe their words? Or despite their witnesses and warnings, are we waiting for evidence—are we “walking in darkness at noon-day,”19 refusing to see by the light of modern prophecy, and denying that the Light of the World will return to rule and reign among us?

 

Throughout the course of my life, I have known many good and generous people who adhere to Christian values. However, some lack faith that He lives, that He is the Savior of the world, and that His Church has been restored to the earth. Because they do not believe in the words of the prophets, they miss the joy of the gospel and its saving ordinances in their lives.

I have a dear friend who, one day not long ago in a moment of brotherly tenderness, asked, “Elder Hales, I want to believe. I’ve always wanted to believe, but how do I do it?” This morning I desire to answer that question.

The Apostle Paul wrote to the Romans, “Faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.”20 The very fact that you are viewing, listening to, or reading the proceedings of this conference means that you are hearing God’s word. The first step to finding faith in the Lord Jesus Christ is to let His word—spoken by the mouth of His servants, the prophets—touch your heart. But it is not enough merely to let those words wash over you, as if they alone could transform you. We must do our part. Or as the Savior Himself said, “He that hath ears to hear, let him hear.”21 In other words, hearing requires an active effort. “Faith without works is dead.”22 It means taking seriously what is taught, considering it carefully, studying it out in our minds. As the prophet Enos learned, it means letting others’ testimonies of the gospel “[sink] deep into [our] heart[s].”23 Let us review some of the elements of Enos’s profound, faith-building experience:

 

First, Enos heard the gospel truths from his father, just as you are hearing them in your families and in this conference. Second, he let his father’s teachings about “eternal life, and the joy of the saints”24 sink deep into his heart. Third, he was filled with a desire to know for himself whether these teachings were true and where he himself stood before his Maker. To use Enos’s words, “My soul hungered.”25 By this intense spiritual appetite, Enos qualified himself to receive the Savior’s promise: “Blessed are all they who do hunger and thirst after righteousness, for they shall be filled with the Holy Ghost.”26 Fourth, Enos obeyed the commandments of God, which enabled him to be receptive to the Spirit of the Holy Ghost. Fifth, Enos records, “I kneeled down before my Maker, and I cried unto him in mighty prayer and supplication for mine own soul; and all the day long did I cry unto him; yea, and when the night came I did still raise my voice high that it reached the heavens.”27 It wasn’t easy. Faith did not come quickly. In fact, Enos characterized his experience in prayer as a “wrestle which [he] had before God.”28 But faith did come. By the power of the Holy Ghost, he did receive a witness for himself.

 

We cannot find Enos-like faith without our own wrestle before God in prayer. I testify that the reward is worth the effort. Remember the pattern: (1) hear the word of God, spoken and written by His servants; (2) let that word sink deep into your heart; (3) hunger in your soul for righteousness; (4) obediently follow gospel laws, ordinances, and covenants; and (5) raise your voice in mighty prayer and supplication, asking in faith to know that Jesus Christ is our Savior. I promise that if you do these things sincerely and unceasingly, the words Christ spoke to His disciples will be fulfilled in your life: “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.”29

 

Once we find the beginnings of our faith in Jesus, our Heavenly Father allows our faith to be strengthened. This occurs in many ways, including through the experience of adversity. An acquaintance of mine recently wrote:

“We lost a 2-and-a-half-year-old grandson to leukemia. … My children still haven’t taken his crib down; it will [soon be] 7 years [since he died. It is] hard to have faith. [I] lost a friend [who was] 69. [He] had three different cancers in 10 years, [cancers which] went into remission twice. [First, they found it in his] kidneys, [then his] brain, [and] then [his] lungs. [He] couldn’t fight it any longer. [He] tried everything humanly possible and 6 years ago found faith … but not an extra day, so I guess it’s hard to believe.”

This appeal to me for faith was answered as follows: “Your family story of the loss of your grandson to leukemia was touching. Hopefully, you and your children will find peace as you seek answers to the purpose of life. Our faith is acquired through prayer with a sincere desire to draw close to God and trust in Him to bear our burdens and give us answers to life’s unexplained mysteries of the purpose of life: Where did we come from? Why are we here on earth in mortality? And where are we going after our mortal sojourn on earth? All is well with your little one because he died before the age of accountability of eight years of age and he is in the presence of God. Seek faith, and may the blessings of God be with you.”

Isn’t it interesting that the one who is suffering often gains faith through suffering and accepts the Lord’s will, “thy will be done,”30 while family members and caregivers may have a difficult time accepting the tragic outcome and being able to strengthen their faith from the experience. We cannot measure faith by “an extra day.”

 

When the challenges of mortality come, and they come for all of us, it may seem hard to have faith and hard to believe. At these times only faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and His Atonement can bring us peace, hope, and understanding. Only faith that He suffered for our sakes will give us the strength to endure to the end. When we gain this faith, we experience a mighty change of heart, and like Enos, we become stronger and begin to feel a desire for the welfare of our brothers and sisters. We pray for them, that they too will be lifted and strengthened through faith on the Atonement of our Savior Jesus Christ.

Let us consider a few of these prophetic witnesses of the effects of the Atonement in our lives. As we do I invite you to let them sink deep into your heart and fill whatever hunger and thirsting there may be in your soul.

“And in that day the Holy Ghost fell upon Adam, which beareth record of the Father and the Son, saying: I am the Only Begotten of the Father from the beginning …, that as thou hast fallen thou mayest be redeemed.”31

And “the Lord showed himself unto [the brother of Jared], and said: … Behold, I am he who was prepared from the foundation of the world to redeem my people. … In me shall all mankind have life, and that eternally, even they who shall believe on my name.”32

 

Abinadi witnessed: “I would that ye should understand that God himself shall come down among the children of men, and shall redeem his people. … Yea, even so he shall be led, crucified, and slain … ; giving [him] power to make intercession for the children of men …, having redeemed them, and satisfied the demands of justice.”33

 

And finally, Joseph Smith. As a 14-year-old boy, he exercised unwavering faith and followed the prophet James’s direction to “ask of God.”34 Because of Joseph’s prophetic calling, God the Father and His Son, Jesus Christ, appeared to him and gave him instructions. How glorious was this First Vision to the first prophet of this last dispensation! Sixteen years later in the Kirtland Temple, Joseph was visited again by the Savior and testified: “We saw the Lord. … And his voice was as the sound of the rushing of great waters, even the voice of Jehovah, saying: I am the first and the last; I am he who liveth, I am he who was slain; I am your advocate with the Father.”35

 

To my dear friend and all those whose souls are hungering for faith, I invite you “to seek this Jesus of whom the prophets and apostles have written.”36 Let their witness that the Savior gave His life for you sink deep into your heart. Seek a witness of the truth through the Holy Ghost in prayer, and then see your faith strengthened as you joyfully meet the challenges of this mortal life and prepare for eternal life.

 

Jesus Christ did come. He did live. And He will come again. This I know and give my special witness and testimony, in the sacred name of Jesus Christ, amen.”

Robert D Hales, October 2004 General Conference 

 Con amor,

Vero