To my married children:
Valentine’s Day is almost upon us and for you out
there who are married is your friendly reminder to do something special for
that love in your life! We have always commented with Daniel how each one of
you is perfect for each other. So now is the time to make sure you have something
ready for Wednesday! Because you do NOT want to be that guy who finds himself
at the store last minute picking from the last few Valentines cards left on the
rack…we’ve all seen one of those guys before and it is pathetic
Here’s a little secret – What your spouse want is to
know that you care. It’s not about the amount of money you spend on a gift.
It’s about putting thought into it and showing that you pay attention to the
little things that matter the most to your better half. And for those who don’t
have a special someone in your life right now, do what I used to do when I was
single. I went out and celebrated Single Awareness Day in its place. Buy
yourself something nice because you deserve it! This was one day I didn’t feel
guilty spending a day at the Spa and buying my favorite outfit, jewelry, purse,
and shoes.
For those of us who are married, Valentines’ Day is
about noticing when your spouse mentions little things such as favorite treat,
or a favorite movie she or he wants to go see, or how we love it when our car
is clean and full of gas, or when we let it slip that we miss doing something
for the other person. it’s hearing those clues and noticing them and then doing
something about them that is the very best way to show you care. Because all we
want is someone who pays attention to us and lets him or her know that you care
through your actions, not just your words. Pay attention and do the little things
that matter to your husband or wife.
Any man can buy a girl flowers, but not any man will
take the time to really get to know a girl and understand what’s important to
her. That takes time and effort and a whole lot of patience on your part men
because we women acknowledge (although typically only to each other) that we
are difficult to handle. We know we can get overly emotional at times and we
know we can even be a bit irrational on rare occasions so it means that much
more to us to know that you love us enough to put up with those extremely rare
times that we are difficult and that you still care enough to notice what makes
us happy.
Gals and guys, if you are struggling to think of
something meaningful to do after hearing my advice above I suggest this – stop
for a second and think back to the last time you saw your wife or husband truly
light up. Where was he or she in that moment, what was going on around you, who
were you with, what was being done or discussed that made her or him smile?
Then figure out how to recreate a little more of that again.
Maybe it was when she was going to see an action movie
with you or maybe it was a play she loves but you don’t care all that much to
see (trust me this one will pay off for you big time after the play is over.)
Maybe it was when you were helping do the dishes for her one night so get home
and do more than just dishes clean up the house for her. Make sense?
I realize that many people gripe that Valentine’s Day
is a big commercial scam to sell roses and chocolates, and maybe that’s true,
but isn’t it a good thing that at least once a year someone reminds you to show
a little appreciation to the love of your life? Because heaven knows we all
need a little reminder. wink, wink, hint, hint!
(Just sayin’)
This year I started writing a little note on a heart
shape posted note telling Daniel how much I appreciate all of what he does. I
have been writing one each day since Feb. 1st and by Feb. 14th
he will have 14 hearts taped on his mirror. It took me years to discover how
men like to be appreciated and we take too many things for granted.
I hope all of you have a fantastic Valentine’s Day.
Con amor,
Vero
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