What would you do differently?

If you could do it again, what would you have done differently? 

Don’t ask that question in the mindset of beating yourself up. Ask that question to truly look back at a period of time and see what lessons you learned from it and make decisions on how you want to incorporate those lessons into your future performance. That is exactly what Daniel tries to do with his employees every six months when they meet and evaluate their goals. 

That question really makes you think through and evaluate the things that you’ve gone through…it makes you look at the choices you made or the choices you should have made and didn’t, it makes you review the efforts you made or the efforts you didn’t make and wish you had, and it forces you to recognize all the lessons you actually learned from the past experience and it helps you come up with a list of all the things you now know you want to do differently in the future.

If we don’t stop every so often (I suggest doing it more frequently rather than less frequently will save you from wasted time where you could have been doing better sooner) then we will never improve as quickly nor as much as we could have. Because life buzzes along so quickly that while our intention is to improve, we get too easily caught up in doing the same-old’ same-old’ and we continue doing things we would have otherwise changed if we had really take the time to consider it.

Take your work life for example. When you start a new job you have passion and excitement and you are eager to learn. The more time that passes the more you find reasons to complain or get frustrated and left unchecked you can become completely miserable in your job. But if at the end of each workday you had taken a moment to ask yourself “If I could do it again what would I have done differently?”  and write down the things you want to different from now,  think of the incredibly positive impact that would have on your performance and success at work.

Or take a marriage for example. When you meet and fall in love you spend all kinds of quality time together being romantic. Then you get married and the kids come along and work life gets busier and you get into the routine of skipping date night because there was too much going on. Then one day a few years into it you look at your spouse and realize you’ve hardly spoken to each other let alone had a romantic date together. If every few months you look back and ask yourselves as a couple, “If we could do it again what would we have done differently?” you would notice that had you spent more quality time together you would feel closer to one another and you would have grown more as a couple.  Then you could change your behavior sooner than later. The more frequently you take time to ask the question the faster your marriage will improve.

None of us want to be dumb enough to keep repeating the same mistakes in our lives because that will take us nowhere. So be sure and take time to ask yourself:

“If I could do it again what would I have done differently?”

Then be sure and use the answers to make yourself smarter tomorrow than you were today and yesterday! There are so many things I wish I had done differently but the good thing is that there is always tomorrow.