Wednesday, September 16, 2020

A tender Mercy

Thoughts on 180 days of quarantine.

 

Why did I started counting my days on quarantine? 

 

I wanted to count how many days I would be in one place without traveling because for the past 11 years, a good portion of my life has been boarding planes, staying in hotels, meeting people and visiting the areas where my husband is a director for temporal affairs for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. His work is intense and at times, I get to come along. 

 

Those travels have taken me to very interesting places in the Caribbean, the Philippines and now in South America but for the past 180 days, that is exactly six months, we have not ventured out of the City of Buenos Aires. I probably have left our apartment half a dozen times, if that, and that is a record. I have tasted a little bit what it would feel like to be on house arrest. 

 

I also love to write because that is the only way I know to feel connected with the outside world. It is difficult to find a way to share my thoughts and feelings and to share those things I have learned from people I trust as well. I want to leave a footprint of those things that matter to me the most (such as integrity, respect, going the extra mile, doing your best, etc.) This is a good way to share what people have taught me and the values I cherish. I only do an exception in writing this blog and that is, when I am away from home, I focus on the people I am with completely and take a break from writing in this blog. I am a firm believer in that you need to enjoy time with loved ones to full capacity and be present, not worried about doing other things so the blog posts will cease for a few weeks. I will be back October 10th.

 

Some days I write about my day, or scheduled events, some days I write about the lessons I have learned, some days I write about our goals as a family, some days I write about my extended family, some days I write about my personal struggles in life, and some days I write about inspirational thoughts, stories I have heard or learned. Today I am writing about a tender mercy.

 

We had purchased tickets to go to Salt Lake from September 14thto October 7thbut unbeknownst to us, we booked the flight coming back on a day Daniel had an important meeting. All meetings are done via zoom but we would be unavailable because we would be flying. This was an important trip because I had scheduled all our doctor appointments and we couldn’t cancel them. Another issue which became a blessing in disguise is that we received a call from the airline that our flight had been cancelled. We called to see when we could fly out and found seats on a flight on September 17thwhich meant that our trip would be cut short. We wanted to change the returning flight for a later date but the way we purchased the tickets did not allow for changes. But as I was talking to Mandy telling her of my dilemma she mentioned that if they change our inbound flight they were cutting my trip short so they should be able to change our return. I had not thought about that so I called them immediately and convinced the agent to please see what she could do to help us and she did. She changed our return for a later date so that Daniel could attend his important meeting. Thank you! 

 

I don’t ever want to ever forget this tender mercy, and so, the blog has become a way of putting those experiences down the only way I can communicate effectively to the entire family to keep everyone in the loop and on the same page. “In life, you will realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you. But most importantly… some will bring out the best in you.” My hope is that my family will be those people who bring out the best in each other.  

 

Con amor,

Vero

Tuesday, September 15, 2020

For Such a Time as This

 Thoughts on 179 days of quarantine. 

One tradition I love doing is making an ABC gospel book for all our grandchildren. I do it when they turn one or two so they can take the book to Church to read during sacrament. It’s hard for little ones to remain still and quiet and the book made with photos of them and their family was intended to keep them focus on something good. But I didn’t want this tradition to end there, for that purpose, I decided to also make another gift to give to all our grandchildren who are graduating from high school. This is also a pivotal time in their lives when they have turned 18 and have legally become an adult. This is when they leave home to start their newest adventure of the exciting college life. What a milestone that is! 

 

I am a firm believer that the best thing a parent or grandparent can do is to help their young become the best they can be; that will reflect into every aspect of that person’s life. I want to help all our grandchildren believe in themselves more, I want to help them set goals and plans for their future that they are excited about, and most of all, I want to help all of them by sharing everything I can about what lessons I have learned and to draw on my personal experiences to help each of them to accomplish all that they want to in this life. 

 

When I look back at the years and experiences in my life I now realize that the value of having had all the hard times and the rough lessons is that I can now take what I learned and teach it to others so that I can hopefully help them to move faster and farther than I did by helping them avoid the pitfalls along the way and mistakes that I made in order to learn.

 

I want to express my feelings and thoughts dear to my heart and by doing so, I hope this will be a good way for them to remember me. A High school graduation is both an ending and a beginning. It has been said that we live in troubled times: the COVID-19 pandemic, the downhill economy, loss of jobs, violent outbursts and riots might have you wondering, is there a bright future for them? Yes Absolutely, Yes! 


Now that I have reached the “senior citizen” status, I feel this deep desire to pay forward the same kindness that was paid to me over the years by making time to write those thoughts and hopefully teaching them the lessons that I have been able to learn over the years that have helped me so much. The young people of today are incredible and they push me to want to be a good example.  

 

You see, there are really two ways that we learn in life—we can to through it ourselves (this is what I refer to as “the hard way” or we can learn it by hearing what someone else went through this is what I refer to as “the much easier and less painful way.” But the only way for people to learn from someone else’s experiences is if that person is willing to put themselves out there and share those experiences with others and that is something I am very excited to do more of. It’s so exciting for me to have a new goal that I am working on. Goals are amazing because they give you energy and passion that really ignites a fire in you to achieve. 

 

This I can tell you for sure; there is hope for the future because our children part of it. The future is not only bright but thrilling and filled with potential. I would like to offer them those things I wish someone had told me back in the day when I was their age. I am so excited for our youth. They are the very best this world has ever seen! 

 

Con amor

Vero

 

 

Monday, September 14, 2020

Family Home Evening

 Thoughts on 178 days of quarantine.

This was a special day for us. We got out of our comfort zone and hosted a family home evening with my sister's ward in El Salvador and my family. They invite friends every Monday to join in a discussion of those things important to us. 

We all want to be happy. We all want to be successful. We all want to have peace in troubled times. We all want the best for us and our family and I believe the way to do that is to get closer our Heavenly Father and the Savior Jesus Christ by reading the Book of Mormon. 

The gospel of Jesus Christ is at the center of the Book of Mormon. I love His gospel and the love He has for each person who has ever walked this earth. 

I started reading the Book of Mormon on a daily basis when I turned 20. Up to that point I had read a few chapters here and there. I am a firm believer that the best thing a parent of grandparent can do for their family is to be a good example. I am not perfect but I do try to live the commandments the best way I can. 

I love reading the Book of Mormon each day, and invite you to do the same. 

Con amor,

Vero

Sunday, September 13, 2020

Sunday Sermon: Firm and Steadfast in the Faith of Christ

Thoughts on 177 days of quarantine.

 

“In Old Testament history, we read of successive periods when the children of Israel honored their covenant with Jehovah and worshipped Him and other times when they ignored that covenant and worshipped idols or Baalim.1

The reign of Ahab was one of the periods of apostasy in the northern kingdom of Israel. The prophet Elijah on one occasion told King Ahab to gather the people of Israel as well as the prophets or priests of Baal at Mount Carmel. When the people had come together, Elijah said unto them, “How long halt ye between two opinions? [or in other words, “When will you decide once and for all?”] if the Lord be God, follow him: but if Baal, then follow him. And the people answered him not a word.”2 So Elijah directed that both he and Baal’s prophets cut up a young bull and place it on a bed of wood on their respective altars but “put no fire under.”3 Then, “Call ye on the name of your gods, and I will call on the name of the Lord: and the God that answereth by fire, let him be God. And all the people answered and said, It is well spoken.”4

You will recall that the priests of Baal clamored to their nonexistent god for hours to send down fire, but “there was neither voice, nor any to answer, nor any that regarded.”5When it was Elijah’s turn, he repaired the broken-down altar of the Lord, laid the wood and the offering upon it, and then ordered that it all be doused with water, not once but three times. There was no doubt that neither he nor any other human power could light the fire.

“And it came to pass at the time of the offering of the evening sacrifice, that Elijah the prophet came near, and said, Lord God of Abraham, Isaac, and of Israel, let it be known this day that thou art God in Israel, and that I am thy servant, and that I have done all these things at thy word. …

“Then the fire of the Lord fell, and consumed the burnt sacrifice, and the wood, and the stones, and the dust, and licked up the water that was in the trench.

“And when all the people saw it, they fell on their faces: and they said, The Lord, he is the God; the Lord, he is the God.”6

Today Elijah might say:

·       Either God, our Heavenly Father, exists, or He does not, but if He exists, worship Him.

·       Either Jesus Christ is the Son of God, the resurrected Redeemer of mankind, or He is not, but if He is, follow Him.

·      Either the Book of Mormon is the word of God, or it is not, but if it is, then “get nearer to God by [studying and] abiding by its precepts.”7

·      Either Joseph Smith saw and conversed with the Father and the Son that spring day of 1820, or he did not, but if he did, then follow the prophetic mantle, including the keys of sealing that I, Elijah, bestowed upon him.

In the most recent general conference, President Russell M. Nelson declared: “You don’t have to wonder about what is true [see Moroni 10:5]. You do not have to wonder whom you can safely trust. Through personal revelation, you can receive your own witness that the Book of Mormon is the word of God, that Joseph Smith is a prophet, and that this is the Lord’s Church. Regardless of what others may say or do, no one can ever take away a witness borne to your heart and mind about what is true.”8

When James promised that God “giveth to all men liberally” who seek His wisdom,9 he also cautioned:

“But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.

“For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.

“A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.”10

Our Savior, on the other hand, was the perfect example of stability. He said, “The Father hath not left me alone; for I do always those things that please him.”11 Consider these descriptions from the scriptures of men and women who, like the Savior, were firm and steadfast:

They “were converted unto the true faith; and they would not depart from it, for they were firm, and steadfast, and immovable, willing with all diligence to keep the commandments of the Lord.”12

“Their minds are firm, and they do put their trust in God continually.”13

“And behold, ye do know of yourselves, for ye have witnessed it, that as many of them as are brought to the knowledge of the truth … are firm and steadfast in the faith, and in the thing wherewith they have been made free.”14

“And they continued steadfastly in the apostles’ doctrine and fellowship, and in breaking of bread, and in prayers.”15

To persevere firm and steadfast in the faith of Christ requires that the gospel of Jesus Christ penetrate one’s heart and soul, meaning that the gospel becomes not just one of many influences in a person’s life but the defining focus of his or her life and character. The Lord says:

“A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh.

“And I will put my spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes, and ye shall keep my judgments, and do them.

“And … ye shall be my people, and I will be your God.”16

This is the covenant we make by our baptism and in temple ordinances. But some have not yet fully received the gospel of Jesus Christ into their lives. Although, as Paul says, they were “buried with [Christ] by baptism,” they are still missing the part that “like as Christ was raised up from the dead … , even so we … should walk in [a] newness of life.”17 The gospel does not yet define them. They are not yet centered in Christ. They are selective about the doctrines and commandments they will follow and where and when they will serve in the Church. By contrast, it is in keeping their covenants with exactness that those “who are the elect according to the covenant”18 avoid deception and remain firm in the faith of Christ.

Most of us find ourselves at this moment on a continuum between a socially motivated participation in gospel rituals on the one hand and a fully developed, Christlike commitment to the will of God on the other. Somewhere along that continuum, the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ enters into our heart and takes possession of our soul. It may not happen in an instant, but we should all be moving toward that blessed state.

It is challenging but vital to remain firm and steadfast when we find ourselves being refined “in the furnace of affliction,”19 something that comes soon or late to all of us in mortality. Without God, these dark experiences tend to despondency, despair, and even bitterness. With God, comfort replaces pain, peace replaces turmoil, and hope replaces sorrow. Remaining firm in the faith of Christ will bring His sustaining grace and support.20 He will convert trial into blessing and, in Isaiah’s words, “give … beauty for ashes.”21

May I mention three examples of which I have personal knowledge:

There is a woman who suffers with a debilitating, chronic illness that persists despite medical attention, priesthood blessings, and fasting and prayers. Nevertheless, her faith in the power of prayer and the reality of God’s love for her is undiminished. She presses ahead day by day (and sometimes hour by hour) serving as called in the Church and, together with her husband, looking after her young family, smiling as much as she can. Her compassion for others runs deep, refined by her own suffering, and she often loses herself in ministering to others. She continues steadfast, and people feel happy being around her.

A man who grew up in the Church, served as a full-time missionary, and married a lovely woman was surprised when some of his siblings began speaking critically of the Church and the Prophet Joseph Smith. After a time they left the Church and tried to persuade him to follow. As often happens in such cases, they bombarded him with essays, podcasts, and videos produced by critics, most of whom were themselves disaffected former members of the Church. His siblings mocked his faith, telling him he was gullible and misled. He didn’t have answers for all their assertions, and his faith began to waver under the relentless opposition. He wondered if he should stop attending church. He talked with his wife. He talked with people he trusted. He prayed. As he meditated in this troubled state of mind, he recalled occasions when he had felt the Holy Spirit and had received a witness of truth by the Spirit. He concluded, “If I am honest with myself, I must admit that the Spirit has touched me more than once and the testimony of the Spirit is real.” He has a renewed sense of happiness and peace that is shared by his wife and children.

A husband and wife who have consistently and happily followed the counsel of the Brethren in their lives were grieved by the difficulty they experienced in having children. They expended substantial funds working with competent medical professionals, and, after a time, they were blessed with a son. Tragically, however, after only about a year, the baby was the victim of an accident that was no one’s fault but that left him semicomatose, with significant brain damage. He has received the best of care, but doctors cannot predict how things will unfold going forward. The child this couple worked and prayed so hard to bring into the world has in a sense been taken away, and they don’t know if he will be returned to them. They struggle now to care for their baby’s critical needs while meeting their other responsibilities. In this supremely difficult moment, they have turned to the Lord. They rely on the “daily bread” they receive from Him. They are aided by compassionate friends and family and strengthened by priesthood blessings. They have drawn closer to one another, their union perhaps now deeper and more complete than might otherwise have been possible.

On July 23, 1837, the Lord directed a revelation to the then-President of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, Thomas B. Marsh. It included the following:

“And pray for thy brethren of the Twelve. Admonish them sharply for my name’s sake, and let them be admonished for all their sins, and be ye faithful before me unto my name.

“And after their temptations, and much tribulation, behold, I, the Lord, will feel after them, and if they harden not their hearts, and stiffen not their necks against me, they shall be converted, and I will heal them.”22

I believe the principles expressed in these verses apply to all of us. The temptations and tribulations we experience, plus any testing that the Lord sees fit to impose, can lead to our full conversion and healing. But this happens if, and only if, we do not harden our hearts or stiffen our necks against Him. If we remain firm and steadfast, come what may, we achieve the conversion the Savior intended when He said to Peter, “When thou art converted, strengthen thy brethren,”23 a conversion so complete that it cannot be undone. The promised healing is the cleansing and sanctification of our sin-wounded souls, making us holy.

I am reminded of our mothers’ counsel: “Eat your vegetables; it will do you good.” Our mothers are right, and in the context of steadfastness in the faith, “eating your vegetables” is to pray constantly, to feast on the scriptures daily, to serve and worship in the Church, to worthily take the sacrament each week, to love your neighbor, and to take up your cross in obedience to God each day.24

Always remember the promise of good things to come, both now and hereafter, for those who are firm and steadfast in the faith of Christ. Remember “eternal life, and the joy of the saints.”25 “O all ye that are pure in heart, lift up your heads and receive the pleasing word of God, and feast upon his love; for ye may, if your minds are firm, forever.”26 In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.”

 

Today we had zoom sacrament meeting (with the exception of taking the sacrament) in our ward in Belgrano. It does not look like going back to normal will happen any time soon but thankful we do have technology that allows us to meet virtually. 

 

Con amor,

Vero

Saturday, September 12, 2020

7-Up Ways to Start Your Day

Thoughts on 176 days of quarantine and the count -down begins!  

 

I write on this blog my thoughts every day, except when I leave town. I have not traveled at all in the last 176 days which is a record for me but that is about to change. 

 

In five days, we are going to board a plane headed to Miami, connecting in Dallas to arrive in Utah. It’s scary to think about that, but It is what it is. We have doctor appointments which had been postponed for months but what we need more than anything is to be able to see, touch, and be present. 

 

I know we are living in a pandemic and there is so much sadness going on in the world but we can’t continue to live in fear. Here is a post I saw a while ago that sums up my feeling today about ways to start your day. I don’t know who the Author is but I think is inspiring. 

 

7-Up Lifting Ways to Start Your Day 

1.    Wake up and decide to have an amazing day as one of your affirmations.

2.   Look up to the Lord. He is only a prayer away. 

3.   Dress up and the best way to dress up is to put on a smile

4.   Cheer up say nice things and have a positive attitude

5.    Stand up for what you believe in. Stand up for something or you will fall for anything but be kind and don’t be overbearing. 

6.   Reach up for something higher. Set some good goals.

7.    Lift- up Be a good friend and help those around you.

Con amor,

Vero

 

Friday, September 11, 2020

39 years is a long time

Thoughts on 175 days of quarantine 


Today is 9/11 and every September 11th I can't help to think of tragic events and the wicked world we live in. A world where you find people who murder, who commit adultery, who steal, who lie, etc. This world lacks people with integrity. Bottom line at the end of the day integrity it's about keeping those sacred covenants and commandments from our Heavenly Father. 


Imagine a world where people obey the ten commandments, or just four even. What about keeping four of the commandments where no one would lie, or steal, or murder, or commit adultery. Just by keeping those four, this world would be so blessed and families and societies would be so much happier. 


Indeed, this is a wicked world we live in but there is also goodness and people who are doing the best they can to be righteous and by that I don't mean people who are perfect but people who strive to have integrity and keep their covenants and when they fall short, they repent. Every September 11th I feel a little down and the only thing that brightens up my day is to look for the goodness around me and successful stories of people who get it! 


I have been reading in my journal from 39 years ago in 1981 and thought about what would I have done if I had known then what I know now? that is why it never ceases to amaze me when I learn about beautiful long lasting love stories, maybe because it's still a mystery to me how some people get so lucky.  I don't remember exactly who this guy is but this is what he wrote:

 

"Late one foggy evening at a lonely, dark, train station near the coast in Calais, France in 1980, I was waiting by myself on the train station platform for my train to arrive to take me back to another town where I lived. While I waited for my train to arrive, I slowly wandered around the area, and walked past a little gift shop that was surprisingly still open.

 

In the display window I spotted a silver, heart-shaped necklace that had the words “Je t’aime” written on it—French for “I love you.” In an instant I realized that one day in my future, I would meet a pretty girl and want to marry her. All the money I had was spent on my mission, and all I had in my wallet to get me through the month was barely enough to buy it. I knew that when I would return to the states, I would be penniless and if I met that special girl, I would be broke and have nothing to give her when we got engaged—that is, if it happened right away. 

 

I went inside and bought that necklace and kept it hidden in my personal belongings as I traveled all over northern France and southern Belgium, as well as to London on my way home over a year later. I never showed it to anyone. Well, meeting that girl happened a lot faster than I had planned when I got home in 1981. I had to wait until my first pay day to be able to take her on our first date; we got engaged 9 days later, and married 90 days after that. 

 

My suspicions about my future financial status proved to be true; I had no money. So, we got engaged with the only thing I had to give her—that necklace. Despite our poverty at first, she believed in me. She always wore that necklace until all our babies kept grabbing it. She was so afraid something was going to happen to it, she had it mounted in a display frame along with the dried flowers from her wedding bouquet, her gloves, and white handkerchief, where it remains to this day as a museum relic from our history. 

 

Years later I bought her a gold version of that necklace, imported from France, that says “Je t’aime” and she wears it everywhere. Although the silver has tarnished on that little French keepsake of major significance, I have never forgotten how I felt so long ago, and so far away. My heart has never tarnished. So, after 39 years of doing our best to make a life, to run a business, raise our kids, pay the bills, play with grandbabies, go after new (and scary) ventures, and stay as far from poverty as we can, I’m grateful for the journey. For our 39th, I wish my bride a wonderful anniversary and will always tell her, “Je t’aims.”


After reading his story, I felt optimistic about those people out there who get it right and make it happen! There is hope! !


Con amor,

Vero