Monday, January 31, 2022

Teaching

“Don’t worry that children never listen to you.  Worry that they are always watching you.” –Robert Fulghum

 

Teaching our children is our most important work we do in life.  When my girls were young, I was focused on teaching them good values and morals. Then as they grew older I focused on teaching them the value of hard work and having a good work ethic and goals. Now that they are adults I am realizing that I need to focus my teaching efforts on how to become self-reliant in everything we do.  It’s funny because I used to teach parenting on a regular basis and I love doing it. But somehow when it’s time to teach my own children it becomes a much harder endeavor.  Maybe it’s because my girls see me as Mom rather than a teacher so I must find ways to get them to see me in a different light rather than having them see me as “just Mom”.

 

I want so much to teach my daughters everything that I learned over the years as a mother so they don’t make the same mistakes I did because I want them to be able to learn from my mistakes and benefit from my experiences.  Teaching them all of that is going to take time and I am going to have to be patient, which is not my strongest suite.  But passing on my knowledge to my girls is that irrevocable gift I can give them and I know it is the most important thing I can do for them now.

 

A few thoughts I have on things we should teach our children are:

 

Tell your kids where you came from – share your story of how you decided what to go into, what ideas you had, what mistakes and failures you had along the way. Don’t let your kids think you were successful and brilliant from the get-go, because that just isn’t true. Let them know how you stumbled along the way so they realize that what you achieved isn’t unreachable for them.

 

Explain to your kids the different types of careers that are out there and what the day to day of those careers will look like.  So many of our kids today have no idea what careers exist in each field.  If you ask a child if they want to go into marketing they would have idea about the actual jobs that exist within the field of marketing, such as graphic artist, copywriter, editor, creative director, etc.  Explain real world jobs to them so the kids can gain an understanding of what options exist out there.

 

Find ways to give your kids hands on experience. The more they can do a task firsthand the more they can determine if they are good at it and if it something they want to pursue.  Just reading about or hearing about jobs doesn’t give them a true idea if it is something they are interested in. 

 

Most important, set the example of hard work by your own behavior. Kids watch us more than we realize so make sure that what they are seeing is a reflection of something you are proud to pass on to them. “Give An Irrevocable Gift to the next Generation” Ernie Fleltcher 

 

Con amor,

Vero

Sunday, January 30, 2022

An Apostle's Witness of the Resurrection

"Alexander the Great, king of Macedon, pupil of Aristotle, conqueror of most of the known world in his time, was one of the world’s great young leaders. After years of exercising military pomp and prowess and after extending his kingdom from Macedonia to Egypt and from Cyprus to India, he wept when there seemed to be no more world to conquer. Then, as evidence of just how ephemeral such power is, Alexander caught a fever and died at thirty-three years of age. The vast kingdom he had gained virtually died with him.

Quite a different young leader also died at what seems such an untimely age of thirty-three. He likewise was a king, a pupil, and a conqueror. Yet he received no honors from man, achieved no territorial conquests, rose to no political station. So far as we know, he never held a sword nor wore even a single piece of armor. But the Kingdom he established still flourishes some two thousand years later. His power was not of this world.

The differences between Alexander and this equally young Nazarene are many. But the greatest difference is in their ultimate victories. Alexander conquered lands, peoples, principalities, and earthly kingdoms. But he who is called the Perfect Leader, he who was and is the Light and Life of the world—Jesus Christ the Son of God—conquered what neither Alexander nor any other could defeat or overcome: Jesus of Nazareth conquered death. Against the medals and monuments of centuries of men’s fleeting victories stands the only monument necessary to mark the eternal triumph—an empty garden tomb.

Last week, we and all the rest of the Christian world celebrated Easter. In our great general conference of the Church, we lengthen the Easter season today to remember him and honor this pivotal event in the lives of all mankind. As Easter in the Northern Hemisphere ushers in an awakening of life following the barrenness of winter, so Christ’s resurrection ushers in the blessing of immortality and the possibility of eternal life. His empty tomb proclaims to all the world, “He is not here, but is risen.” (Luke 24:6.) These words contain all the hope, assurance, and belief necessary to sustain us in our challenging and sometimes grief-filled lives.

Easter is the celebration of the free gift of immortality given to all men, restoring life and healing all wounds. Though all will die as part of the eternal plan of growth and development, nevertheless we can all find comfort in the Psalmist’s statement, “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.” (Ps. 30:5.)

It was Job who posed what might be called the question of the ages: “If a man die, shall he live again?” (Job 14:14.) Christ’s answer rings down through time to this very hour: “Because I live, ye shall live also.” (John 14:19.)

Even with the logic of nature’s regeneration and even with the testimony of that empty garden tomb, there are still those who feel the grave is a final destination. But the doctrine of the Resurrection is the single most fundamental and crucial doctrine in the Christian religion. It cannot be overemphasized, nor can it be disregarded.

Without the Resurrection, the gospel of Jesus Christ becomes a litany of wise sayings and seemingly unexplainable miracles—but sayings and miracles with no ultimate triumph. No, the ultimate triumph is in the ultimate miracle: for the first time in the history of mankind, one who was dead raised himself into living immortality. He was the Son of God, the Son of our immortal Father in Heaven, and his triumph over physical and spiritual death is the good news every Christian tongue should speak.

The eternal truth is that Jesus Christ arose from the grave and was the firstfruits of the Resurrection. (See 1 Cor. 15:23.) The witnesses of this wonderful occurrence cannot be impeached.

Among the chosen witnesses are the Lord’s Apostles. Indeed, the call to the holy apostleship is one of bearing witness to the world of the divinity of the Lord Jesus Christ. Joseph Smith said, “The fundamental principles of our religion are the testimony of the Apostles and Prophets, concerning Jesus Christ, that He died, was buried, and rose again the third day, and ascended into heaven; and all other things which pertain to our religion are only appendages to it.” (History of the Church, 3:30.)

Peter, one of the Apostles chosen by the Master during His ministry, made these statements concerning the role of the Apostles as witnesses of the death and resurrection of Jesus:

“Therefore let all the house of Israel know assuredly, that God hath made that same Jesus, whom ye have crucified, both Lord and Christ.” (Acts 2:36.)

“But ye denied the Holy One and the Just, … and killed the Prince of life, whom God hath raised from the dead; whereof we are witnesses.” (Acts 3:14–15.)

“And we are his witnesses of these things; and so is also the Holy Ghost, whom God hath given to them that obey him.” (Acts 5:32.)

The Apostle Paul commented on what Peter had stated about the Apostles being witnesses of the death and resurrection of Jesus. These are his words:

“And when they had fulfilled all that was written of him, they took him down from the tree, and laid him in a sepulchre.

“But God raised him from the dead:

“And he was seen many days of them which came up with him from Galilee to Jerusalem, who are his witnesses unto the people.” (Acts 13:29–31.)

On Mars Hill in Athens, Paul said: “[God] hath given assurance unto all men, in that he hath raised him from the dead” (Acts 17:31), and before King Agrippa he asked this question: “Why should it be thought a thing incredible with you, that God should raise the dead?” (Acts 26:8.)

Paul bore his apostolic witness of the Resurrection again in his letter to the Saints at Corinth:

“Am I not an apostle? am I not free? have I not seen Jesus Christ our Lord? are not ye my work in the Lord? … For the seal of mine apostleship are ye in the Lord.” (1 Cor. 9:1–2.)

“But now is Christ risen from the dead, and become the firstfruits of them that slept … in Christ shall all be made alive.” (1 Cor. 15:20, 22.)

I humbly testify of my privilege to bear the holy apostleship and to work daily with a modern Quorum of Twelve Apostles who are disciples of the Lord Jesus Christ. We are to go forth as “special witnesses of the name of Christ in all the world.” (D&C 107:23.) And so have the Apostles always testified.

In our own day, Apostles and prophets are carrying on the work of bearing witness to the world of Jesus Christ. If I may have the privilege, I wish to repeat what President Marion G. Romney, the President of our present apostolic quorum, said concerning the resurrection of Jesus. Not long ago he made this statement to a general conference of the Church:

“At this Easter season, I am grateful for this opportunity to bear witness to the resurrection of Jesus and to set forth, in part at least, the basis upon which that witness rests.

“‘He is risen; he is not here.’ (Mark 16:6.) These words, eloquent in their simplicity, announced the most significant event of recorded history, the resurrection of the Lord Jesus—an event so extraordinary that even the Apostles, who had been most intimately associated with Jesus in his earthly ministry and who had been carefully taught of the coming event, had difficulty grasping the reality of its full significance. The first accounts which reached their ears ‘seemed to them as idle tales’ (Luke 24:11) as well they might, for millions of men had lived and died before that day. In every hill and dale men’s bodies mouldered in the dust, but until that first Easter morning not one had risen from the grave. …

“That the whole of his mortal life moved toward this consummation, he had repeatedly taught. It was foreshadowed in his statement about laying down his life and taking it up again. To the sorrowing Martha he had said, ‘I am the resurrection, and the life’ (John 11:25); and to the Jews, ‘Destroy this temple, and in three days I will raise it up.’ (John 2:19.) …

“The evidence that Jesus was resurrected is conclusive.” (in Conference Report, Apr. 1982, pp. 5–7; or Ensign, May 1982, p. 6.)

To the testimony of President Romney and the witnesses of my Brethren, I add my own apostolic witness that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of the living God; that he was born into mortality and fulfilled his ministry as related in the scriptures, which record his birth, his life, his teachings, and his commandments.

In teaching his Apostles, Christ made known to them “that the Son of Man must suffer many things, and be rejected of the elders, and of the chief priests, and scribes, and be killed, and after three days rise again.” (Mark 8:31.) So it was. He was crucified and placed in the tomb. On the third day, he did arise to live again—the Savior of all mankind and the firstfruits of the Resurrection. Through this atoning sacrifice, all men shall be saved from the grave and shall live again. This always has been the testimony of the Apostles, to which I add my witness, in the name of Jesus Christ, amen." Howard W. Hunter (G.C. April 1986) 

 

Saturday, January 29, 2022

Ten things to tell our Adult Children

Our amazing children are adults between the ages of 30 to 43 as of 2022.  They are wonderful, smart, successful adults and we adore them. They have their own lives and thankfully still include us in their lives. I do wonder sometimes, however, how much we should still be trying to influence their lives. Do they want our advice? Do my “suggestions” sound like nagging? Should we share our experiences or let them make their own mistakes? Hopefully we are doing a little of each – it’s tough to avoid either.

So, I decided I would write a few things that I want to tell my adult children – great advice they need to hear. So, listen up, guys. . . . . .

Advice to My Adult Children

1. God is always firstRead the scriptures and pray every day to have the influence of The Holy Spirit with you “at all times and in all places.”  Pick a time and place dedicated to do Come Follow Me each day and take the sacrament each Sunday. 

2. Apply the teachings of Christ and Be kind. It doesn’t take money. It doesn’t take time. There’s usually a choice – be kind, ignore the person/situation who has offended you. The golden rule is right thing to do.

3. Pay your tithing and Save some money. Pay your tithing first and put a few dollars away. Don’t get through the month and then put away whatever you might have left. You may not have anything left. Put it away first. In addition, pay off your credit before is due.  Pay off the balance. Do this and you will never have a credit card problem.

 4. Mindfulness. This is pretty much the key to everything. Be mindful of your decisions and actions. Don’t get crazy with impulsive or spur-of-the moment decisions. A little spontaneity is good. It’s fun. Rushing into important decisions, not so much.

5. My simple rule of “the more you. . .”. You know, the more vegetables you eat, the more vegetables you will eat. It’s all about good habits. The more you practice your good habits, the more they become your good habits. (Unfortunately, this can apply to bad habits too so watch yourself. . . repeating a bad habit can make it seem okay).  

6. Make your bed. I think it’s a good thing so your bedroom looks neat and you start your day accomplishing something and make sure to wash those sheets periodically. Especially your pillowcases. 

7. Overdress. If you think you need to dress up, then dress up. It’s always better to overdress for a situation than show up looking like a bum.

8. Never fill out your recipient’s email address on your email until you’re ready to send. Do you know how many emails get sent accidentally? Well, me neither, but it’s a lot. Don’t be one of them. Don’t settle. I really don’t see millennials settling for things that don’t make them happy and I’m all for that – most of the time. If you hate your job, get another one. If you don’t like where you live, move. You’re not a tree.

9. Love your siblings Even when you don’t always agree with them.  At the end of the day, they are the ones who are there for you. You are lucky enough to have some true friends, but it still doesn’t compare to the unconditional love of family. Do this until the day you leave this earth. 

10. Know that your parents love you with their entire hearts and souls. Those of you who have children understand where I am coming from. After all, we didn’t let you do a lot of things that you wanted to do and we weren’t always nice or fun. 

Eventually, hopefully long and far away, we will get old (no, we are not old now!) and need to hear advice and reminders from you. You may wonder how much you should try to influence our lives. Sound familiar? We our trying to do that with our mothers. I already know that the toughest part of loving you will be one day leaving you. Until then, I plan on giving you advice and subtle reminders. (Maybe a few not-so-subtle reminders, too). Your turn will come. And when it does, refer to #1. Love You with All My Heart and Soul. 

Con amor

Vero

Friday, January 28, 2022

Don't Quit

For anyone who is ready to thrown the towel by quitting their New Year’s Resolution which usually happens before the month of January ends, here is an inspirational poem for us to remember. 

 

 

𝗗𝗢𝗡𝗧 𝗤𝗨𝗜𝗧

When things go wrong, 

as they sometimes will,

When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,

When the funds are low 

and the debts are high,

And you want to smile, 

but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing 

you down a bit

Rest if you must, 

but don't you quit. 

. . . 

Success is failure 

turned inside out

The silver tint of 

the clouds of doubt

And you never can tell 

how close you are,

It may be near 

when it seems so far;

So stick to the fight 

when you're hardest hit,

It's when things seem worst that you must not quit!

-Edgar A. Guest

 

And that is all I will say about that! 

 

con amor,

Vero

 

Thursday, January 27, 2022

Imagine

I love the song imagine by John Lennon not necessarily for what it says but for what it implies. Here are the lyrics: 

Imagine there's no heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us, only sky

Imagine all the people
Livin' for today
Ah

Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion, too

Imagine all the people
Livin' life in peace
You

You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man

Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world
You

You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one

 

What John Lennon is describing is what I know it to be called Zion where people were of one heart, one mind, dwelt in righteousness and there were no poor among them. They got along and loved each other, despite their differences, simple as that! That is what John Lennon meant by the song. He missed the point when he described a world lacking diversity. That is not what this world needs, what we don’t need is violence, abuse, hate, corruption and the list goes on describing the wickedness around us in a fallen world. Like the man who hired a hit man to kill his wife. Just listen to the news and you know what I mean. I prefer the song, "All you need is Love" 






We need people who promotes love and peace like Akhil Gupta’s father. Here is how his friend Mike Murray described it and I love to share anything Mike Murray posts on social media because I have great respect for a man who is down to earth despite all his wealth. Here is what Mike shared:

 

 “Do you remember your 10th birthday party? It probably wasn't anything like that of my friend Akhil Gupta's. Akhil grew up in India. He and I were classmates in graduate school. Here's his story:

“My parents celebrated my tenth birthday in an unusual way. Rather than showering gifts on me, my mother took me with her to feed the poor people outside the temples of six different faiths: a Sikh temple, a Hindu temple, a Jain temple, a Christian church, a Jewish synagogue, and an Islamic mosque. As I handed over two pieces of bread and some very appetizing curry to each person, I did not see Muslim or Hindu or Christian faces — I only saw grateful human faces. Even though it was a fleeting exchange — a small act of kindness and the acknowledgment of gratitude — I can still vividly remember the deep human connection I felt that day, and the profound sense of joy it gave me.

When we returned home, my father read from the scriptures of these six major faiths. He told us that there is only one God who has been manifested on Earth in different times through Krishna, Christ, Mohammed, Moses, Guru Nanak, Buddha, Mahavir, and many others. The words “Ekam sat vipra bahuda vadanti” (truth is one, but called differently by many) from the Rig Veda (I.164.46) still rings in my ears. He ended our prayer by saying “Sarve Janah sukinoh bhavantu” (May ALL the peoples of the world be peaceful and prosperous)."

 

Exactly, peace and prosperity is what this world needs. 

 

Con amor,

Vero

 

Wednesday, January 26, 2022

Supply and Demand

I love looking at houses to buy as a hobby of mine but never thought I would see the day when the price you are paying for a home is over the apprised valued. Ridiculous! 

This is what I read in a newspaper article today. 

“According to the study done by Florida Atlantic University three Utah cities are all among the list's Top 10 most expensive cities in the U.S. 

  • #3 - OGDEN
  • #5 - PROVO
  • #9 - SALT LAKE CITY

Professors used average or expected price changes to provide an estimate of how much a market's housing stock is over- or undervalued.

For the three Utah cities in the Top 10, the amounts the study shows people are overpaying for homes is staggering.

The study claims buyers in Ogden are paying over 53% more than they should to buy a house, while that number is 51.17% for Provo and 48.51% for Salt Lake City

‘We get calls all the time, saying I’ve been looking for 6 months now and I still can’t get an offer accepted, what am I doing wrong?,” said Jared Johnson with Infinite Real Estate Group.

Between low inventory and skyrocketing prices, many first-time homebuyers are struggling to make that dream of owning a home a reality.

‘They have this vision that we’re gonna wait for things to slow down, but if you look at Utah and the data over the last 40 years, I mean, we’re doubling our home value every 9 years,’ said Johnson.

Johnson has been in real estate over the last 12 years, and says right now is tough, but with the right realtor, he believes buyers can find a home.

‘Everybody’s just really being rushed,’ said Jared.

If you find a home you like, you need to move fast, as well as home inspectors, lenders, title companies, appraisers.

Part of the issue is the little inventory.

‘If you look at why we crashed in 2008, versus where we’re at now, we’re in a completely different situation, driven by inventory. The reality is it is a cheaper time to buy than waiting for the market to go down because notoriously interest rates go up,’ Johnson added.

Another issue, the population influx.

‘With the influx of people, even with interest rates rising, there are still going to be people that want to be here and are willing to pay that price,’ said Johnson.

 

For the markets considered overvalued, the study believes people are buying homes close to the peak of the market.

Ken H. Johnson, one of the researchers of the study says with population influx, and an inventory shortage, record low interest rates have thrown gas on the fire.

 

Ken says if you are looking to sell and are staying in the Salt Lake area, you’ll run into the same problem as buyers.

‘Then once you sell your property, where are you going to move to, it is like a game of musical chairs, you don’t want to be left standing when the music stops.’

Ken says now may also be a good time to rent and reinvest. He says you’ll be paying a premium temporarily, but the housing market will come back.

 

It’s not a good idea to speculate when it comes to real estate prices. A home is worth what people are willing to pay and it looks like people are willing to pay a fortune. I only wish I had not sold my home back in the day when I did but who knew? Moral of the story, keep what you have and be grateful! 

 

Con amor,

Vero

Tuesday, January 25, 2022

Girl Power

On Monday, we were instructed by Elder Craig Christensen and his wife, Debbie, as they shared a message at a devotional prepared for the Senior couples. I attended as well since I am part of the FHE group that meets every other Monday. 

 

What I was so impressed was the wonderful message sister Christensen gave to complement her husbands. He is great, but she is over the top! When she compared washing her children’s dirty soiled clothes they used when they did sports as an imagery of taking the sacrament, was brilliant, the image of washing and washing stayed in my head and it was something that Ann remembers as well from the time she gave that same message to her missionaries when she served as a Mission Leader in Honduras. 

 

On another subject, I love how she showed us the video clip of the woman as covenant keepers and the story of Rebecca told by her. She said, don’t tell me Rebecca was pretty, tell me Rebecca was a hard worker and kind. There are so many women of faith in the Old Testament; these are women with Girl Power like Rebecca, all AWESOME women.  Sister Christensen is amazing too!  She is real and down to earth and she gets it. She really gets it and that same goes to all the woman sitting in that room. I love my missionary sisters who have left their homes and family to serve. 

 

I the world we live in, having sisters like that is SO REFRESHING!  If sister Debbie Christensen ever were to run for office, I would vote for her any day! Today, I had the rare privilege of having lunch with sister Christensen and Ann Bush, two other ladies were unable to come but even with just the two I could feel some real Girl Power of fabulous, unstoppable women.  Let’s face it, Debbie Christensen is the epitome of Girl Power, and the best kind of it.  It is so exciting to see talented women using their skills to make the world a better place!  Women are truly amazing.

 

I get asked all the time how I feel about being a woman in the Church and the funny thing is that I am always asked as if it is a negative to me that I am a woman as a Latter-day Saint!  ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!  Being a woman in the Church is the best thing ever!  Women bring so much to the table.  They have an intuition that is truly incredible.  Where men tend to look at the facts only, women tend to look at the facts too but then they trust their gut on top of that.  Men can sit in a room together for six hours and no absolutely nothing about one another, where a woman can sit in the room with anyone (man or woman) and you give us ten minutes and we will know every detail of your entire life…just think how valuable that can be when it comes to spreadig the gospel.  A woman who is confident (but not cocky), a woman who is intelligent, a woman who has integrity, and a woman who takes care of herself, is a woman who is unstoppable!  And let’s just talk straight…from the time a woman is a little itty bitty baby girl, she knows how to get what she wants.  

 

Have you ever watched a little girl wrap her daddy around her finger…it’s like watching pure magic.  And no one even taught her how to do it – she is simply born with it :).   And have you ever observed a teenage girl who wants something?  She is a natural born negotiator in ways that are truly mind boggling.  Again, it is a natural born gift that women just have.  So my answer to the question as to whether I find any disadvantage to being a woman when it comes to being a member of the Church? is a resounding NO!  Being a woman in anywhere, Church, business (or politics) is a HUGE asset in my opinion. 

 

So ladies, today’s blog are dedicated to all of you amazing creatures that make this world a better place with your presence!  Now get out there and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN!  Oh, and for you men reading this blog – get out there and support and appreciate those amazing women in your lives.  They deserve it!

 

Con amor,

Vero

Monday, January 24, 2022

A not so Coincidence Day

I write this blog as a way of keeping a record about the lessons I am learning each day in my life.  Those who know me well know that I also don’t believe in coincidences in life. Rather, I firmly believe that most things happen for a reason. So, the events of today led me to believe that I should write today’s blog about visas and technology I know that sounds odd, but I can explain:

 

I was invited several years ago to serve as the Honorary Consul of El Salvador in Utah.  I didn’t have to think twice about whether to say yes to the request as I had been agonizing over many days when I saw on the news how a devastating earthquake had buried a whole neighborhood in Santa Tecla, the very place of my birth. Which makes the cause of assisting my fellow Salvadorans something near and dear to my heart.  For those of you who are not as familiar with Honorary Consuls, it is done “ad honorem” or without pay. You simply volunteer your time and resources to help your countrymen. and I am honored to be able to help support such a worthy cause that helps so many living in Utah from my homeland. 

 

So, this afternoon I happened to be having lunch with a friend I will call Patty and before that, I was taking to someone else who needs to get her residence visa to live in Buenos Aires. It just so happened that my friend Patty could help the other friend with her visa issue, Coincidence? Doubtful. So, I decided the reason must be that I was supposed to have lunch with my Patty precisely the day my other friend needed her help. I also found someone who can help me navigate social media. I have decided to hang out with people in their thirties more often to get savvy on technology the way they are. If I only hang out with women my age, I will never learn. 

 

Look, I am going to be open about the fact that I hate to have to learn things that seemed hard and I don’t often use the word hate but it is what it is. Nothing against Technology but it changes so much and so fast; by the time I am done learning how to navigate something it has become obsolete.  I have pretty much done anything to avoid having to deal with the new technology and by that, I mean to say that I have turned that over to my husband Daniel to handle it, including how to work the T.V. sad to say, I don’t have a clue. When he is out of town I can’t turn on the TV because I don’t know how to find the channels. I can’t stand the programing all the remotes entailed.  So yeah, I hate the whole experience, I even hate it when I am baby- sitting the grandkids and the parents say, just put on a show. But I sheepishly think to myself, but, but, I don’t know how? 

 

But the fact is that I am now 62 years old and have discovered that yes, you can teach an old dog new tricks. I will ask Patty to teach me and I hope as one of my new year resolutions goals is to become less technology challenged. 

 

Con amor,

Vero

Sunday, January 23, 2022

Where did we Come From?

Questions like, Where did we come from? Why are we here? and Where are we going? are answered in the gospel of Jesus Christ. Prophets have called it the plan of salvation and “the great plan of happiness” (Alma 42:8). Through inspiration we can understand this road map of eternity and use it to guide our path in mortality.


The gospel teaches us that we are the spirit children of heavenly parents. Before our mortal birth we had “a pre-existent, spiritual personality, as the sons and daughters of the Eternal Father” (statement of the First Presidency, Improvement Era,Mar. 1912, p. 417; also see Jer. 1:5). We were placed here on earth to progress toward our destiny of eternal life. These truths give us a unique perspective and different values to guide our decisions from those who doubt the existence of God and believe that life is the result of random processes.


Our understanding of life begins with a council in heaven. There the spirit children of God were taught his eternal plan for their destiny. We had progressed as far as we could without a physical body and an experience in mortality. To realize a fulness of joy, we had to prove our willingness to keep the commandments of God in a circumstance where we had no memory of what preceded our mortal birth.

In the course of mortality, we would become subject to death, and we would be soiled by sin. To reclaim us from death and sin, our Heavenly Father’s plan provided us a Savior, whose atonement would redeem all from death and pay the price necessary for all to be cleansed from sin on the conditions he prescribed (see 2 Ne. 9:19–24).


Satan had his own plan. He proposed to save all the spirit children of God, assuring that result by removing their power to choose and thus eliminating the possibility of sin. When Satan’s plan was rejected, he and the spirits who followed him opposed the Father’s plan and were cast out.


All of the myriads of mortals who have been born on this earth chose the Father’s plan and fought for it. Many of us also made covenants with the Father concerning what we would do in mortality. In ways that have not been revealed, our actions in the spirit world influence us in mortality.

Although Satan and his followers have lost their opportunity to have a physical body, they are permitted to use their spirit powers to try to frustrate God’s plan. This provides the opposition necessary to test how mortals will use their freedom to choose. Satan’s most strenuous opposition is directed at whatever is most important to the Father’s plan. Satan seeks to discredit the Savior and divine authority, to nullify the effects of the Atonement, to counterfeit revelation, to lead people away from the truth, to contradict individual accountability, to confuse gender, to undermine marriage, and to discourage childbearing (especially by parents who will raise children in righteousness).

Maleness and femaleness, marriage, and the bearing and nurturing of children are all essential to the great plan of happiness. Modern revelation makes clear that what we call gender was part of our existence prior to our birth. God declares that he created “male and female” (D&C 20:18; Moses 2:27; Gen. 1:27). Elder James E. Talmage explained: “The distinction between male and female is no condition peculiar to the relatively brief period of mortal life; it was an essential characteristic of our pre-existent condition” (Millennial Star, 24 Aug. 1922, p. 539).


To the first man and woman on earth, the Lord said, “Be fruitful, and multiply” (Moses 2:28; see also Gen. 1:28; Abr. 4:28). This commandment was first in sequence and first in importance. It was essential that God’s spirit children have mortal birth and an opportunity to progress toward eternal life. Consequently, all things related to procreation are prime targets for the adversary’s efforts to thwart the plan of God.


When Adam and Eve received the first commandment, they were in a transitional state, no longer in the spirit world but with physical bodies not yet subject to death and not yet capable of procreation. They could not fulfill the Father’s first commandment without transgressing the barrier between the bliss of the Garden of Eden and the terrible trials and wonderful opportunities of mortal life.

For reasons that have not been revealed, this transition, or “fall,” could not happen without a transgression—an exercise of moral agency amounting to a willful breaking of a law (see Moses 6:59). This would be a planned offense, a formality to serve an eternal purpose. The Prophet Lehi explained that “if Adam had not transgressed he would not have fallen” (2 Ne. 2:22), but would have remained in the same state in which he was created.


“And they would have had no children; wherefore they would have remained in a state of innocence, having no joy, for they knew no misery; doing no good, for they knew no sin” (2 Ne. 2:23).


But the Fall was planned, Lehi concludes, because “all things have been done in the wisdom of him who knoweth all things” (2 Ne. 2:24).

It was Eve who first transgressed the limits of Eden in order to initiate the conditions of mortality. Her act, whatever its nature, was formally a transgression but eternally a glorious necessity to open the doorway toward eternal life. Adam showed his wisdom by doing the same. And thus Eve and “Adam fell that men might be” (2 Ne. 2:25).


Some Christians condemn Eve for her act, concluding that she and her daughters are somehow flawed by it. Not the Latter-day Saints! Informed by revelation, we celebrate Eve’s act and honor her wisdom and courage in the great episode called the Fall (see Bruce R. McConkie, “Eve and the Fall,” Woman, Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1979, pp. 67–68). Joseph Smith taught that it was not a “sin,” because God had decreed it (see The Words of Joseph Smith, ed. Andrew F. Ehat and Lyndon W. Cook, Provo, Utah: Religious Studies Center, Brigham Young University, 1980, p. 63). Brigham Young declared, “We should never blame Mother Eve, not the least” (in Journal of Discourses, 13:145). Elder Joseph Fielding Smith said: “I never speak of the part Eve took in this fall as a sin, nor do I accuse Adam of a sin. … This was a transgression of the law, but not a sin … for it was something that Adam and Eve had to do!” (Joseph Fielding Smith, Doctrines of Salvation,comp. Bruce R. McConkie, 3 vols., Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1954–56, 1:114–15).


This suggested contrast between a sin and a transgressionreminds us of the careful wording in the second article of faith: “We believe that men will be punished for their own sins, and not for Adam’s transgression” (emphasis added). It also echoes a familiar distinction in the law. Some acts, like murder, are crimes because they are inherently wrong. Other acts, like operating without a license, are crimes only because they are legally prohibited. Under these distinctions, the act that produced the Fall was not a sin—inherently wrong—but a transgression—wrong because it was formally prohibited. These words are not always used to denote something different, but this distinction seems meaningful in the circumstances of the Fall.


Modern revelation shows that our first parents understood the necessity of the Fall. Adam declared, “Blessed be the name of God, for because of my transgression my eyes are opened, and in this life I shall have joy, and again in the flesh I shall see God” (Moses 5:10).


Note the different perspective and the special wisdom of Eve, who focused on the purpose and effect of the great plan of happiness: “Were it not for our transgression we never should have had seed, and never should have known good and evil, and the joy of our redemption, and the eternal life which God giveth unto all the obedient” (Moses 5:11). In his vision of the redemption of the dead, President Joseph F. Smith saw “the great and mighty ones” assembled to meet the Son of God, and among them was “our glorious Mother Eve” (D&C 138:38–39).


When we understand the plan of salvation, we also understand the purpose and effect of the commandments God has given his children. He teaches us correct principles and invites us to govern ourselves. We do this by the choices we make in mortality.

We live in a day when there are many political, legal, and social pressures for changes that confuse gender and homogenize the differences between men and women. Our eternal perspective sets us against changes that alter those separate duties and privileges of men and women that are essential to accomplish the great plan of happiness. We do not oppose all changes in the treatment of men and women, since some changes in laws or customs simply correct old wrongs that were never grounded in eternal principles.


The power to create mortal life is the most exalted power God has given his children. Its use was mandated in the first commandment, but another important commandment was given to forbid its misuse. The emphasis we place on the law of chastity is explained by our understanding of the purpose of our procreative powers in the accomplishment of God’s plan.

The expression of our procreative powers is pleasing to God, but he has commanded that this be confined within the relationship of marriage. President Spencer W. Kimball taught that “in the context of lawful marriage, the intimacy of sexual relations is right and divinely approved. There is nothing unholy or degrading about sexuality in itself, for by that means men and women join in a process of creation and in an expression of love” (The Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, ed. Edward L. Kimball, Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1982, p. 311).


Outside the bonds of marriage, all uses of the procreative power are to one degree or another a sinful degrading and perversion of the most divine attribute of men and women. The Book of Mormon teaches that unchastity is “most abominable above all sins save it be the shedding of innocent blood or denying the Holy Ghost” (Alma 39:5). In our own day, the First Presidency of the Church has declared the doctrine of this Church “that sexual sin—the illicit sexual relations of men and women—stands, in its enormity, next to murder” (“Message of the First Presidency,” 3 Oct. 1942, as quoted in Messages of the First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, comp. James R. Clark, 6 vols., Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1965–75, 6:176). Some who do not know the plan of salvation behave like promiscuous animals, but Latter-day Saints—especially those who are under sacred covenants—have no such latitude. We are solemnly responsible to God for the destruction or misuse of the creative powers he has placed within us.


The ultimate act of destruction is to take a life. That is why abortion is such a serious sin. Our attitude toward abortion is not based on revealed knowledge of when mortal life begins for legal purposes. It is fixed by our knowledge that according to an eternal plan all of the spirit children of God must come to this earth for a glorious purpose, and that individual identity began long before conception and will continue for all the eternities to come. We rely on the prophets of God, who have told us that while there may be “rare” exceptions, “the practice of elective abortion is fundamentally contrary to the Lord’s injunction, ‘Thou shalt not … kill, nor do anything like unto it’ (D&C 59:6)” (1991 Supplement to the 1989 General Handbook of Instructions, p. 1).

Our knowledge of the great plan of happiness also gives us a unique perspective on the subject of marriage and the bearing of children. In this we also run counter to some strong current forces in custom, law, and economics.

Marriage is disdained by an increasing number of couples, and many who marry choose to forgo children or place severe limits on their number. In recent years strong economic pressures in many nations have altered the traditional assumption of a single breadwinner per family. Increases in the number of working mothers of young children inevitably signal a reduced commitment of parental time to nurturing the young. The effect of these reductions is evident in the rising numbers of abortions, divorces, child neglect, and juvenile crime.

We are taught that marriage is necessary for the accomplishment of God’s plan, to provide the approved setting for mortal birth, and to prepare family members for eternal life. “Marriage is ordained of God unto man,” the Lord said, “that the earth might answer the end of its creation; and that it might be filled with the measure of man, according to his creation before the world was made” (D&C 49:15–17).


Our concept of marriage is motivated by revealed truth, not by worldly sociology. The Apostle Paul taught “neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord” (1 Cor. 11:11). President Spencer W. Kimball explained, “Without proper and successful marriage, one will never be exalted” (Marriage and Divorce, Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1976, p. 24).

According to custom, men are expected to take the initiative in seeking marriage. That is why President Joseph F. Smith directed his prophetic pressure at men. He said, “No man who is marriageable is fully living his religion who remains unmarried” (Gospel Doctrine, Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1939, p. 275). We hear of some worthy LDS men in their thirties who are busy accumulating property and enjoying freedom from family responsibilities without any sense of urgency about marriage. Beware, brethren. You are deficient in a sacred duty.

Knowledge of the great plan of happiness also gives Latter-day Saints a distinctive attitude toward the bearing and nurturing of children.

In some times and places, children have been regarded as no more than laborers in a family economic enterprise or as insurers of support for their parents. Though repelled by these repressions, some persons in our day have no compunctions against similar attitudes that subordinate the welfare of a spirit child of God to the comfort or convenience of parents.

The Savior taught that we should not lay up treasures on earth but should lay up treasures in heaven (see Matt. 6:19–21). In light of the ultimate purpose of the great plan of happiness, I believe that the ultimate treasures on earth and in heaven are our children and our posterity.


President Kimball said, “It is an act of extreme selfishness for a married couple to refuse to have children when they are able to do so” (Ensign, May 1979, p. 6). When married couples postpone childbearing until after they have satisfied their material goals, the mere passage of time assures that they seriously reduce their potential to participate in furthering our Heavenly Father’s plan for all of his spirit children. Faithful Latter-day Saints cannot afford to look upon children as an interference with what the world calls “self-fulfillment.” Our covenants with God and the ultimate purpose of life are tied up in those little ones who reach for our time, our love, and our sacrifices.


How many children should a couple have? All they can care for! Of course, to care for children means more than simply giving them life. Children must be loved, nurtured, taught, fed, clothed, housed, and well started in their capacities to be good parents themselves. Exercising faith in God’s promises to bless them when they are keeping his commandments, many LDS parents have large families. Others seek but are not blessed with children or with the number of children they desire. In a matter as intimate as this, we should not judge one another.

President Gordon B. Hinckley gave this inspired counsel to an audience of young Latter-day Saints:

“I like to think of the positive side of the equation, of the meaning and sanctity of life, of the purpose of this estate in our eternal journey, of the need for the experiences of mortal life under the great plan of God our Father, of the joy that is to be found only where there are children in the home, of the blessings that come of good posterity. When I think of these values and see them taught and observed, then I am willing to leave the question of numbers to the man and the woman and the Lord” (“If I Were You, What Would I Do?” Brigham Young University 1983–84 Fireside and Devotional Speeches,Provo, Utah: University Publications, 1984, p. 11).


Some who are listening to this message are probably saying, “But what about me?” We know that many worthy and wonderful Latter-day Saints currently lack the ideal opportunities and essential requirements for their progress. Singleness, childlessness, death, and divorce frustrate ideals and postpone the fulfillment of promised blessings. In addition, some women who desire to be full-time mothers and homemakers have been literally compelled to enter the full-time work force. But these frustrations are only temporary. The Lord has promised that in the eternities no blessing will be denied his sons and daughters who keep the commandments, are true to their covenants, and desire what is right.

Many of the most important deprivations of mortality will be set right in the Millennium, which is the time for fulfilling all that is incomplete in the great plan of happiness for all of our Father’s worthy children. We know that will be true of temple ordinances. I believe it will also be true of family relationships and experiences.

I pray that we will not let the challenges and temporary diversions of mortality cause us to forget our covenants and lose sight of our eternal destiny. We who know God’s plan for his children, we who have covenanted to participate, have a clear responsibility. We must desire to do what is right, and we must do all that we can in our own circumstances in mortality.

In all of this, we should remember King Benjamin’s caution to “see that all these things are done in wisdom and order; for it is not requisite that a man should run faster than he has strength” (Mosiah 4:27). I think of that inspired teaching whenever I feel inadequate, frustrated, or depressed.


When we have done all that we are able, we can rely on God’s promised mercy. We have a Savior, who has taken upon him not just the sins, but also “the pains and the sicknesses of his people … that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people according to their infirmities” (Alma 7:11–12). He is our Savior, and when we have done all that we can, he will make up the difference, in his own way and in his own time. Of that I testify in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.