Our amazing children are adults between the ages of 30 to 43 as of 2022. They are wonderful, smart, successful adults and we adore them. They have their own lives and thankfully still include us in their lives. I do wonder sometimes, however, how much we should still be trying to influence their lives. Do they want our advice? Do my “suggestions” sound like nagging? Should we share our experiences or let them make their own mistakes? Hopefully we are doing a little of each – it’s tough to avoid either.
So, I decided I would write a few things that I want to tell my adult children – great advice they need to hear. So, listen up, guys. . . . . .
Advice to My Adult Children
1. God is always first. Read the scriptures and pray every day to have the influence of The Holy Spirit with you “at all times and in all places.” Pick a time and place dedicated to do Come Follow Me each day and take the sacrament each Sunday.
2. Apply the teachings of Christ and Be kind. It doesn’t take money. It doesn’t take time. There’s usually a choice – be kind, ignore the person/situation who has offended you. The golden rule is right thing to do.
3. Pay your tithing and Save some money. Pay your tithing first and put a few dollars away. Don’t get through the month and then put away whatever you might have left. You may not have anything left. Put it away first. In addition, pay off your credit before is due. Pay off the balance. Do this and you will never have a credit card problem.
4. Mindfulness. This is pretty much the key to everything. Be mindful of your decisions and actions. Don’t get crazy with impulsive or spur-of-the moment decisions. A little spontaneity is good. It’s fun. Rushing into important decisions, not so much.
5. My simple rule of “the more you. . .”. You know, the more vegetables you eat, the more vegetables you will eat. It’s all about good habits. The more you practice your good habits, the more they become your good habits. (Unfortunately, this can apply to bad habits too so watch yourself. . . repeating a bad habit can make it seem okay).
6. Make your bed. I think it’s a good thing so your bedroom looks neat and you start your day accomplishing something and make sure to wash those sheets periodically. Especially your pillowcases.
7. Overdress. If you think you need to dress up, then dress up. It’s always better to overdress for a situation than show up looking like a bum.
8. Never fill out your recipient’s email address on your email until you’re ready to send. Do you know how many emails get sent accidentally? Well, me neither, but it’s a lot. Don’t be one of them. Don’t settle. I really don’t see millennials settling for things that don’t make them happy and I’m all for that – most of the time. If you hate your job, get another one. If you don’t like where you live, move. You’re not a tree.
9. Love your siblings Even when you don’t always agree with them. At the end of the day, they are the ones who are there for you. You are lucky enough to have some true friends, but it still doesn’t compare to the unconditional love of family. Do this until the day you leave this earth.
10. Know that your parents love you with their entire hearts and souls. Those of you who have children understand where I am coming from. After all, we didn’t let you do a lot of things that you wanted to do and we weren’t always nice or fun.
Eventually, hopefully long and far away, we will get old (no, we are not old now!) and need to hear advice and reminders from you. You may wonder how much you should try to influence our lives. Sound familiar? We our trying to do that with our mothers. I already know that the toughest part of loving you will be one day leaving you. Until then, I plan on giving you advice and subtle reminders. (Maybe a few not-so-subtle reminders, too). Your turn will come. And when it does, refer to #1. Love You with All My Heart and Soul.
Con amor
Vero
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