I was married over thirteen years ago, but prior to that I was separated for five years, and for every one of those five years I dreaded Valentine’s Day. I seriously despised Valentine’s Day. It was as if there had been a holiday created just to torture me! When everyone around you is happily married, isn’t hard enough, they had to go and create a national holiday to highlight the fact that I didn’t have a Valentine in my life. They may as well have renamed the holiday “Sorry to be single day” as far as I was concerned.
I despised it until one year I finally realized that I didn’t have to let this holiday be such a downer – I could create my own meaning for Valentine’s Day – I could be my OWN Valentine! As my own Valentine! I could take myself out for a mani and pedi and head to a spa for a massage and an evening of well-deserved pampering.
I could go shopping and buy myself the perfect gift with all the money I saved by not having to buy a boyfriend a gift. In addition, knowing that nothing lifted my spirits quicker than performing an act of service for someone else, I realized that I could spread Valentines love to people in my life that inspired me. I could get those cute Valentines cards like we used to give out in third grade and make them for friends and loved ones to tell them “thanks for the love they bring into my life”.
Giving love and appreciation to other people was a fabulous way to get over any sadness I previously had on Valentine’s day. I found myself looking forward to the holiday rather than dreading it. Funny how simple it was to change my perspective on it. It just took looking at it differently than I had before. That lesson was one of the great lessons I learned in my life.
So, for all you single people out there that may be dreading this week’s holiday, I would challenge you to be excited to spread a little love to yourself and those you care about this week!
Given that laughter is also a great way to change our attitude about something, here is a fun quote I found that is sure to make you smile:
“Box of chocolate, $20, dinner for two, $80, dozen roses, $100, being single this year on Valentine’s Day and saving $200, PRICELESS!” ~Unknown
Now for those out there who DO have a Valentine in your life, I found a very, very good quote that ALL MEN reading this post need to pay close attention to:
“A Valentine’s Day Warning to All Men: If she says she doesn’t want a special gift, she’s LYING!!! She’s just testing your mind-reading capabilities…”
If that fact (which is completely a true statement) frustrates you men, you will relate nicely to this next quote:
“Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. Or, as men like to call it, Extortion day. “ Jay Leno
Extortion or not, the bottom line is this – either buy your Valentine a present, or even better, make them a handmade card or gift. Every girl loves a homemade card from her sweetheart because it says he cared enough to take the time to make it, even though he hates doing stuff like that. And if you don’t want to make her something then take the easy road and go buy her something with diamonds. You can never go wrong with diamonds. The choice is yours – either give us your time or give us your money :). We women are flexible like that :)!
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