Marriage and family

Today I gave the class in Institute about marriage and it was one a hesitated in giving because I am no expert. I am not the best example since I was once divorced and the thought about giving this class scared me. I wasn't sure how to say to them, don't do what I did wrong, whatever that was so I gave a little prayer before I prepared and asked my Heavenly Father to help me and he did.


The class turned out amazing, the students were very much engaged in anything I had to say, and Daniel even showed up at the end, which he never does and told the class the way his father treated  his mother and how much people trusted him. After all, I have discovered how marriage is all about trust and I trust Daniel 100% without a shadow of a doubt that he will never ever betray me and I don't think there are too many women that can say that.

We live in a world where people go through relationships like they go through boxes of breakfast cereal. Many have relationships of convenience or relationships based on “having no one better so why not settle for this person??” Often times before ending one relationship people are out scouting for their next one, keeping their relationships going as if they were a revolving door. Divorce has honestly become so commonplace that one actually finds oneself surprised to find a happily married couple who has stayed together….and when its that rare circumstance where they might even like each other we are all stunned completely.

I came across the cutest quote ever!:

“When I’m older and my daughter asks who my first love was, I don’t want to have to pull out the old photo album. I want to be able to point out across the room and say – “He’s sitting right over there.””

None of us can change our relationship past….it is past. But we can change our relationship, present and future.

Remember the day you first met the love of your life? When you fell madly into love with them. When you would get butterflies when you were within a few feet of the person; experiencing those feelings are some of the very best types to experiences for sure. Who doesn’t love getting the butterflies of love?!

And once you find that you have those butterfly feelings, you then have to work to keep them alive and active. An article in Psych Central Magazine gives a few tips on how you can do this:

1. Show your appreciation every day.
2. Surprise your partner – write them an unexpected note, or do something cute for him like leaving a sexy voice message or writing a sweet note.
3. Carve out time to be together each week.
4. Devise your dream getaway
5. Take turns planning dates
6. Mix things up once in a while
7. Take a class together
8. Pick activities that are unusual for you
9. Spend 30 minutes a day talking
10. Do chores
11. Remember what first sparked your love
12. Give up a grudge
13. Have a lazy weekend together
14. Do more things together
15. Be intimate and remember that communication builds intimacy

Being in love is a great feeling. Being in a love that can endure the test of time is the ultimate great feeling. But creating that kind of love takes time and effort. You just can’t sit back idly by and expect things to turn out the way you had hoped they would.

Make an effort for the one you love. Practice doing some of the things from the psych central list above for your sweetheart and bring the butterflies back!

I am working on doing #1 and 3 more often.