Young love

I saw on Facebook that my cousin Norma Guariglia's son Jacob got married. Could this be true? He seemed so young. This season is not just to celebrate the Holidays but for many it is also to celebrate their own special day. Their anniversary!! I know so many who have chosen this busy time of the year to get married including my sister Liz and my daughter Cristi. When two people are so in love like when you first start it's so fun to watch. I love weddings! I love attending them but I do not love planning them! In our family we only have one last single child to go. Yay!!

I love the holiday season – I love the decorations and the holiday goodies and that extra feeling of love in the air. I love to watch romantic movies. those are my favorite kind. Daniel likes all action shows so at times we have to compromise. I even made him watch hair spray with John Travolta and he has never forgiven me for that one!! Here in the Philippines there is not too much to do than to watch Television. 

Last night one of the movies was about a married couple who had been married for 20 years but now found themselves contemplating a divorce. Not because there was abuse or adultery or any of the more serious reasons for divorce, but simply because over time they had begun taking each other for granted and forgetting to show one another that they loved and appreciated the other. They had been trying to hide the fact they were headed for divorce from others until they could settle matters with their lawyer, but at one point the Grandfather, who had been living with the couple since the time his own wife had died, pulls the son-in-law aside so let him know that he recognizes that things aren’t right between them and he said:

“You know better than anyone that what’s on the outside can be different than what’s going on inside. But a marriage is a house. You invest in it. You make the repairs. And you love it. Because inside is everything that ever meant something to you…Never walk away from what you spent a lifetime building. There will come a point that you wish you had more time together so cherish the time that you do have… Stand by her. Sacrifice for her. Then love her. Love her all the way to the end….”

and he is right about that! our marriages are a house that we have invested in and repaired over the years and loved – and it’s true that everything that ever meant something to us IS inside of it, so for marriage troubles that we can fix through sacrifice and loyalty and love… we should! We should fix them instead of walking away from what we’ve spent a lifetime building…we should make the effort needed and then love each other all the way to the end. I hope Jacob and his bride will be happy all the way to the end. 

Con amor,

Vero