Thursday, March 21, 2019

What is your love language?


I was looking at an article describing our love languages and I still can't figure out which is mine. Here are the options:

The Five Love Languages

Words of Affirmation: Actions don't always speak louder than words. It this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the wold too you. Hearing the words, "I love you," are important. Hearing the reasons behind that love sees your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time: In the vernacular of quality time, nothing says "I love you," like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts: Don't mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of its thrives on then love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or geese shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday anniversary, or hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous, so would the absence joy everyday gestures.

Acts of Service: Can vacuuming the floor really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an "Acts of Service" person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: "Let me do that for you." Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don't matter.

Physical Touch: This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face; they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

It's hard to just pick one love language because I can relate to all of them. I like to say I love you whenever possible, I like to give gifts, do acts of service, spend time with loved ones, and touch. I love to give people "masajitos" so I am a little bit of all of those.

Con amor,
Vero

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