Love is a Choice

This month pick is a book by Elder Lynn G. Robbins

Love is a choice. 

 

The overall theme of his book is that from the beginning we were given agency. We get to choose what kind of marriage we want to have. Because love is a choice, you can’t fall in love. True love is not something you fall in but grow in. True love is defined by the Savior, a.k.a. charity. One that never faileth (1 Cor. 13:8)

 

Love is more than physical attraction, in due time, it will be fatal if that is all we have going for because eventually we age. We are 100 % responsible, no excuses.

 

We must forgive even if the offender is unrepentant, and until we do so, we will not access the Lord’s grace and find healing. We need to be one. Unity and loyalty are imperative to the health of a marriage. 

 

To be happy, we must choose to do things that will increase our joy. Developing Christ’s virtues is the key to happiness.

 

At the end of the book he enlists 100 virtues with scriptural references:

 

 

1.    Self-governance

2.    Responsibility

3.    Accountability

4.    Faith in Jesus Christ

5.    Self-worth

6.    Righteous desires 

7.    Self-worth

8.    Knowledge

9.    Integrity

10. Silence and Listening

11. Love

12. Mediation

13. Discernment

14. Understanding

15. Wisdom

16. Simplicity

17. Cleanliness

18. Order

19. Balance

20. Belief

21. Trust

22. Optimism

23. Vision

24. Foresight and anticipation

25. Vigilance

26. Punctuality

27. Work

28. Independence

29. Contentment

30. Provident living

31. Creativity

32. Excellence

33. Commitment

34. Determination

35. Diligence

36. Constancy

37. Progress

38. Resilience and endurance

39. Valor

40. Moral courage

41. Boldness and candor

42. Charity

43. Compassion

44. Affection

45. Kindness

46. Friendship

47. Tenderness

48. Mindfulness and sensibility

49. Hospitality

50. Politeness and civility

51. Refinement

52. Culture

53. Vitality

54. Enthusiasm

55. Health

56. Humor

57. Joy

58. Good works

59. Generosity

60. Nurturing

61. Praise

62. Servantship

63. Rescuing

64. Diplomacy and Tact

65. Poise and serenity

66. Forgiveness

67. Long suffering

68. Patience

69. Mercy

70. Justice

71. Inclusion

72. Open-mindedness

73. Discipleship

74. Testimony

75. Example

76. Teaching

77. Honor and Respect 

78. Solemnity

79. Worship

80. Gratitude

81. Meekness

82. Humility and submissiveness

83. Repentance

84. Obedience

85. Loyalty

86. Trustworthiness

87. Sincerity

88. Integrity

89. Family

90. Unity

91. Patriotism

92. Sacrifice

93. Fasting

94. Self-mastery and Temperance

95. Modesty

96. Chastity

97. Moral purity

98. Spirituality

99. Consecration

100.Sanctification 

 

 

The invitation is to look at each of those virtues to work on them each week. 

 

Con amor,

Vero