My life change for the better From October 16 2009 to today. There have been amazing happy moments too many to count and I will do my best to mention a few in future posts. This is sort of a timeline of events and I now I wonder what would the next dozen years bring? What will August 2026 be like? Will my mother and Daniel's mother be still alive? That would put my mom at age 86 and Daniel's mom at age 96 so is possible. Are we going to be retired and where would we live? That would put him at age 71 and me at age 66 How many grandchildren would be born by then and how many would be in College or married? Wow, time does fly so fast and I am so exited for our future!! I can't wait to see all the miracles that will take place!
The past is now forever gone and I am so glad for that! After Vane's wedding at the end of 2002 was nothing like the end of 2003 a year I would love to forget! The only tender mercy of that year was the wedding of Cristi and Brooks on December 19th that year. The next significant thing was Bianca's wedding on August 19 2005 a happy day for all our family but a cruel reminder of how her father was no longer active in the Church and didn't get to see her baby's sealing in the temple.
Next hardship was my father's death in 2006 a very akward moment for the whole Flores Henriquez family but what I do remember is that somehow we survived it. The next significant life changing event was Maricela's and Andre's wedding in February 2007 short lived but Mari gave it her best shot. She has had to endure so much pain that is it better to live a bad situation in hopes that someday she will find true happiness. She has Manuelito who feels her life with so much joy.
On August 20 2008 my divorce was finalized. Is one of those dates most people forget unlike your wedding date but unfortunately that happened on Bianca's birthday. I was once again blessed with a wonderful husband the way it had been told it would happen on a blessing I received and there I was once again saying yes to marrying Daniel Almeida on October 16 2009 and that was the start of our happy life together but even when I feel so happy at times I forget to let go of all the hurt I experienced.
All of us have been through being hurt in life. All of us have
had someone offend us or hurt our feelings. And all of us can find reasons to
be angry or bitter toward someone else. And I am quite certain that all of us
are justified for being hurt. By the same token I am sure that each of us
have done things to hurt someone else, perhaps intentionally or perhaps
unintentionally, but none of us are perfect so chances are we have been at
fault at least once or twice…
As we are about to enter in a few weeks leading up to Christmas, what
better gift to give ourselves and others than to simply Let It Go? Let go
of the anger and hurt and bitterness. Let go of needing to have been right. Let
go of feeling sad or isolated. Let go of feeling justified for your feelings.
Just let it all go.
Now in saying to let it go I am not suggesting that every situation warrants welcoming someone back into your life who has damaged it. Heaven knows there are some situations where you should forgive but keep someone out of your life, especially if there has been past abuse or mistreatment. Only you will know if someone should be allowed back in to your life or not, so trust your own heart.
For those situations that didn’t involve abuse, which is
hopefully the majority of the situations, it might very well make sense to
invite someone back into your life. I think this especially applies to siblings
or parents or friends where both of you have allowed little things to become
big stumbling blocks between you. When I think back on these situations I am
usually amazed at how we can let a lot of small things grow so out of
control and they end up having so much hurt attached. People get their feelings
hurt and then they pull away from each other and then time sets in and after a
while it becomes easier to stay away than to try and fix things, or so it
seems. But think of the positive things that could be if you let it go, think
of the good memories that can still be created and think of the friendships and
relationships that could exist if everyone would just agree to Let it Go, and start
loving each other again.
I now have a large family of 10 kids and anytime you have
10 kids with very different personalities and then each of them get married to
people from other families with a whole other set of personalities, you are
bound to have differences and difficulties between people now and then. But I
constantly try to remind myself that God placed me into the Almeida family because he wanted me to have those children too. He wanted us to learn from each
other and grow together and support each other. That alone warrants
letting a whole lot of things go.
We have to remember that when we leave this life someday one of
the few things we get to take with us is our relationships with others.
By holding on to negative feelings we are forcing our relationships to stay in
the past, whereas, by letting go of our negative feelings we allow them to have
a future. Letting it go doesn’t have to be difficult. It is just a decision to do it. And letting it go only has to happen in your own heart and mind, it doesn’t have to be a big production by any means. It is just a decision to truly forgive and let go.
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